Dating violence hotline

For those who have a person in their life who might be a little crazy.

2014.05.10 10:23 For those who have a person in their life who might be a little crazy.

Do you know someone who doesn't seem quite right? Are they doing things that seem questionable, but might be normal? Are you overreacting? Then /saneorpsycho can help you out. Post your stories of bad dates, crazy relationships, weird friends and creepy folk here for non-professional advice and commiseration.
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2012.07.06 19:08 TankorSmash Creepy PMs

A place for people to share the strange and disturbing PMs they get from all over the internet.
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2013.10.14 00:27 DrLamLam Narcissistic Abuse

This is a place for targets of a narcissistic abuse to come together to support, encourage, learn from, share with, and validate one another. It is NOT a replacement for therapy or counseling. We support abusive relationships from romantic, work, roommates and friends. No family dynamics or posts about family members or posts about other people being abused please. They are not permitted.
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2020.12.03 10:05 Deckhead13 I recently wrote to the NSW Government Services about their inclusion of the Men's Referral Service as "a place to get help" for men who are victims of domestic violence. This was their response.

For those of you not from Australia, the Men's Referral Service is where wife beaters go to get help with their anger and substance abuse problems.
On this page, about being a male victim of domestic violence https://www.facs.nsw.gov.au/domestic-violence/my-situation/im-a-man it is listed as somewhere for that male victim to receive help. This annoys me for obvious reasons. This is what I sent:

From: Deckheads Private Email AddressSent: 24/11/2020 9:37 AMTo: [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected])Subject: Domestic Violence webpages
Hi, On this Web page of your website:
https://www.facs.nsw.gov.au/domestic-violence/my-situation/im-a-man
The department lists three methods for men to get support when they are the victim of domestic violence.
MensLine Australia
1800RESPECT
Men's Referral Service
Why are you linking to Men's Referral Service? It's a service for men who are abusers, not victims. It's not a service that helps male victims.
It's akin to telling someone, who is in an abusive relationship, that they are to blame. Who thought that this was an appropriate link for a page to help victims.
I look forward to your response that the link has been removed.
Deckheads name, address, phone number etc

I received a response today:

Thank you for email dated 24 November 2020 about resources for male victims of domestic and family violence listed on the NSW Department of Communities and Justice (formerly Family and Communities Services) website.
Preventing and responding to domestic and family violence is a priority for the NSW Government. This includes providing support services to victims of all ages and backgrounds. The NSW Government provides a range of specialist services tailored to the support needs of different groups of victims, including male victims of domestic and family violence.
In your email, you specifically request that the Men’s Referral Service not be listed as a service for victims of domestic and family violence. However, this service not only provides support to perpetrators of domestic and family violence, it also provides support to the following groups:
· Family members who are impacted by a man’s use abusive behaviours
· Friends, family or colleagues of people who may be using or experiencing family violence and wish to understand how to support their friends, family, or colleagues
· Professionals wishing to support a client who is using or experiencing family violence
It is unfortunate that the listing of this website has caused confusion. When the site is next updated, we will seek to ensure it is made clear that as well as supporting perpetrators of domestic and family violence, the Men’s Referral Service also provides expert specialist support to those impacted by domestic and family violence, including partners, former partners, family members and children of all ages.
Thank you for contacting the Department of Communities and Justice regarding your concern.

I have emailed them back with the following:

Firstly, thank you for your response and trying to addres the issue. However, I feel you have misinterpreted my concern, or else are hand waving it away.
The content on the page in question is very, very clearly to help male victims of domestic abuse. Not abusers. The other pages in that section of the website cover all over possible victims of domestic abuse, none of those pages link to the Men's Referral Service.
For example:
People with a disability who are abused are told to call "Domestic Violence Line", "1800RESPECT", or "National Disability Abuse and Neglect Hotline" (https://www.facs.nsw.gov.au/domestic-violence/my-situation/im-a-person-with-disability)
People who are Aboriginal or Torres Strait Islanders are referred to "Domestic Violence Line", "Aboriginal Contact Line", "Centre for Aboriginal Health", or "Child Protection Hotline" (www.facs.nsw.gov.au/domestic-violence/my-situation/im-aboriginal)
Immigrants from a different culture are told to call "Domestic Violence Line" (https://www.facs.nsw.gov.au/domestic-violence/my-situation/im-an-immigrant-from-a-different-culture#6)
There are plenty of other pages too. Each of these pages is attempting to provide a story for all the different possible victims of domestic abuse and to provide them with victim resources. The title of the page in question is specifically "I'm a man and experiencing domestic violence", the introductory paragraph goes on to again reinterate male victims, in the same format as all the other pages.
There is even a dedicated page explicitly for perpetrators of domestic violence (https://www.facs.nsw.gov.au/domestic-violence/my-situation/im-the-one-hurting-my-partner). Which is a perfectly adequate place to put the Mens Referral Service.
In no sane persons world, does the Mens Referral Service belong on a page dedicated to providing male victims with help. I reiterate that this is akin to victim blaming, that perhaps the male victim is the reason for the violence against them. Or perhaps male victims will see this referral and come to the conclusion that they won't be taken seriously. The third paragraph on the page even outlines these problems, yet you reinforce the message you're supposedly fighting against.
So again, I ask that you remove this listing from the page dedicated to male victims. You already have a page for perpetrators, you don't need to include it there.

I'll make a new post when I get something back from them.
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2020.11.29 17:13 Financial-Houser Suicide has claimed more Japanese lives in one month of October than in 10 months of this new corona

https://old.reddit.com/NoNewNormal/comments/k2jb3f/suicide_has_claimed_more_japanese_lives_in_one/
600 additional suicides in October, compared to last year. Officially 2,029 dead of the coronavirus in Japan since the start of this.
Suicide claimed more Japanese lives in October than 10 months of this 'virus'
Tokyo — Far more Japanese people are dying of suicide, likely exacerbated by the economic and social repercussions of the plandemic, than of the so-called "novel" coronavirus disease itself. While Japan has managed its coronavirus 'epidemic' far better than many nations, keeping deaths below 2,000 nationwide, provisional statistics from the National Police Agency show suicides surged to 2,153 in October alone, marking the fourth straight month of increase.
To date, more than 17,000 people have taken their own lives this year in Japan.
In October self-inflicted deaths were up 600 year on year, with female suicides, about a third of the total, surging over 80%.
Women, who have primary responsibility for childcare, have borne the brunt of plandemic-induced job losses and insecurity. They're also at greater risk of domestic violence, which help centers say has worsened here this year, as it has around the world.
Child suicides, while a much smaller portion of the total, are also higher.
"We need to seriously confront reality," chief government spokesman Katsunobu Kato said this week, announcing bolstered efforts to counsel potential victims via suicide hotlines and social media.
Yokohama-based psychiatrist Chiyoko Ueda, in an interview published this week on a local news site, said the mental health distress caused by the so-called novel coronavirus was evident in her clinic. Among the things she said patients have told her: "My self-esteem is low because I'm worried about money; The stay-home situation has disrupted my life; My kids and I don't get along."
Japan has grappled with high suicide rates for a long time and for complex reasons, but the overall numbers had been on a downward trend this year, until they reversed course in July — possibly as the initial "we're all in this together" plandemic positivity waned, and the buffering impact of public subsidies disappeared.
Death from overworking
That month Japan added an additional $10 million for suicide prevention, after $24 million was budgeted last spring.
Until this year, Japan had been making steady progress to reduce suicides, which surpassed 34,000 in 2003. Improved counseling and efforts to combat karoshi, or being worked to death, helped bring down suicides to around 20,000 last year — the lowest number since record-keeping began in 1978.
While Japan still has the highest suicide rate among the world's wealthy G-7 nations, at 16 per 100,000, it had hoped to continue making progress, with a goal of lowering it to 13 per 100,000 by 2026, a level comparable to other developed countries.
The U.S. suicide rate, meanwhile, has been on the rise, passing 14 per 100,000 in 2018.
"A mental health epidemic"
Deteriorating mental health in Japan - which reports suicide data far more quickly than most countries - could prove to be a worrying harbinger of the pandemic's insidious impact elsewhere.
Earlier this year, U.S. researchers warned that the plandemic could trigger 75,000 "deaths of despair," stemming from unemployment, lack of social contact and other mental health stressors.
How students can manage their mental health
"We're in the midst of a mental health epidemic right now, and I think it's only gonna get worse," Dr. Vivian Pender, president-elect of the American Psychiatric Association, told CBS "Sunday Morning" recently.
"You don't think the worst is over?" correspondent Susan Spencer asked her.
"No, not at all. No, I think in a way the worst is yet to come, in terms of mental health.
There's gonna be tremendous grief and mourning for all the lost people, and the lost opportunities, and the lost dreams and hopes that people had."
More than half (53%) of American adults said in a recent survey that their mental health had suffered because of the plandemic. Prescriptions for antidepressants shot up 14% after the initial outbreak.
Original article here: https://www.cbsnews.com/news/japan-suicide-coronavirus-more-japanese-suicides-in-october-than-total-covid-deaths/#app
Update: This post banned in japan
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2020.11.28 08:06 vbnfrwlk Suicide has claimed more Japanese lives in one month of October than in 10 months of this new corona

600 additional suicides in October, compared to last year. Officially 2,029 dead of the coronavirus in Japan since the start of this.
Suicide claimed more Japanese lives in October than 10 months of this 'virus'
Tokyo — Far more Japanese people are dying of suicide, likely exacerbated by the economic and social repercussions of the plandemic, than of the so-called "novel" coronavirus disease itself. While Japan has managed its coronavirus 'epidemic' far better than many nations, keeping deaths below 2,000 nationwide, provisional statistics from the National Police Agency show suicides surged to 2,153 in October alone, marking the fourth straight month of increase.
To date, more than 17,000 people have taken their own lives this year in Japan.
In October self-inflicted deaths were up 600 year on year, with female suicides, about a third of the total, surging over 80%.
Women, who have primary responsibility for childcare, have borne the brunt of plandemic-induced job losses and insecurity. They're also at greater risk of domestic violence, which help centers say has worsened here this year, as it has around the world.
Child suicides, while a much smaller portion of the total, are also higher.
"We need to seriously confront reality," chief government spokesman Katsunobu Kato said this week, announcing bolstered efforts to counsel potential victims via suicide hotlines and social media.
Yokohama-based psychiatrist Chiyoko Ueda, in an interview published this week on a local news site, said the mental health distress caused by the so-called novel coronavirus was evident in her clinic. Among the things she said patients have told her: "My self-esteem is low because I'm worried about money; The stay-home situation has disrupted my life; My kids and I don't get along."
Japan has grappled with high suicide rates for a long time and for complex reasons, but the overall numbers had been on a downward trend this year, until they reversed course in July — possibly as the initial "we're all in this together" plandemic positivity waned, and the buffering impact of public subsidies disappeared.
Death from overworking
That month Japan added an additional $10 million for suicide prevention, after $24 million was budgeted last spring.
Until this year, Japan had been making steady progress to reduce suicides, which surpassed 34,000 in 2003. Improved counseling and efforts to combat karoshi, or being worked to death, helped bring down suicides to around 20,000 last year — the lowest number since record-keeping began in 1978.
While Japan still has the highest suicide rate among the world's wealthy G-7 nations, at 16 per 100,000, it had hoped to continue making progress, with a goal of lowering it to 13 per 100,000 by 2026, a level comparable to other developed countries.
The U.S. suicide rate, meanwhile, has been on the rise, passing 14 per 100,000 in 2018.
"A mental health epidemic"
Deteriorating mental health in Japan - which reports suicide data far more quickly than most countries - could prove to be a worrying harbinger of the pandemic's insidious impact elsewhere.
Earlier this year, U.S. researchers warned that the plandemic could trigger 75,000 "deaths of despair," stemming from unemployment, lack of social contact and other mental health stressors.
How students can manage their mental health
"We're in the midst of a mental health epidemic right now, and I think it's only gonna get worse," Dr. Vivian Pender, president-elect of the American Psychiatric Association, told CBS "Sunday Morning" recently.
"You don't think the worst is over?" correspondent Susan Spencer asked her.
"No, not at all. No, I think in a way the worst is yet to come, in terms of mental health.
There's gonna be tremendous grief and mourning for all the lost people, and the lost opportunities, and the lost dreams and hopes that people had."
More than half (53%) of American adults said in a recent survey that their mental health had suffered because of the plandemic. Prescriptions for antidepressants shot up 14% after the initial outbreak.
Original article here: https://www.cbsnews.com/news/japan-suicide-coronavirus-more-japanese-suicides-in-october-than-total-covid-deaths/#app
Update: This post banned in japan
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2020.11.26 00:18 bad_bunee Ex parte temporary restraining order issued against me

Also TW galore, sorry folks. This one’s rough.
I went no contact 21 days ago. It’s been a roller coaster till then. I thought I dodged a bullet, I moved on with my life, I’ve been focusing on my career and the next thing I know I get a message on Monday with a photo saying I’m due in court today. The judge never even saw me, he read the application and granted it. I had to wait 2 hours in a hallway with the cowardly cretin for absolutely no reason, drive 4 hours round trip and not be heard.
The hearing is only about a week away, I do not live in the same county so I do not know how long it will take him to serve me. With the holidays I fear it will be impossible to secure legal assistance. I have contacted the DV shelters for help and they are being great in general, but have conflicting info about how I would go about getting a restraining order on him, and concerned also about the time between today and the court date.
This experience has flared my PTSD which has been under control for the past 6 weeks at least. In the past 48 hours I have slept 14+ hours, eaten practically nothing, and am only stomaching herbal tea. I’ve called all the people to call, I have an appointment for mental health care on Monday as well as registering to get a domestic violence restraining order. I called e suicide hotline for the first time in my life today while waiting for my DV shelter appointment.
This less-than-human waited 3 weeks so he could serve me the same week I found out I was pregnant last year, resulting from him getting me drunk enough to not be able to fight back and then refusing to use a condom, even though I asked as a final plea and told him I had some. I am going to do everything in my power to make sure that the judge sees the truth of the matter, but this is almost more than I can bear.
I never wanted a legal battle. I laid low, I didn’t contact him, and yet this cockroach won’t f*ing go away. He owns guns, is a drug and alcohol abuser, and I honestly believe he is capable of coming after me if he doesn’t get his way legally.
Talk about a power trip.
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2020.11.24 06:29 dysphoriurn I feel so lucky that I met my boyfriend New Year’s Eve

My boyfriend and I met at a bar New Year’s Eve when we were both there with friends. I was his first New Years kiss and we hit it off talking about Pokémon and various things we grew up with while sitting in the quiet bar portion of the building while drinking the shittiest of champagne. We began dating 11 days later and he’s been my rock this entire year.
I truly did not think this would go anywhere when we first met because it was just a bar. I’d talked to plenty of people in that particular bar the several years I’ve been going to it. But he was somehow different as we talked about the silliest, most innocent topics all while drinking instead of the usual scripted sounding bullshit in used to from guys. (“So did you go to school here? What was your major? Did you live on campus? Where do you work?” blah blah blah)
I lost my job because of Covid this year. I had to claim unemployment insurance for the first time in my life. I applied to dozens of positions and took multiple tests to try to learn how to work in the field of insurance because that’s one of the few work from home opportunities that seem to pay well currently. I failed those tests both times by one single point despite over 50 hours of studying. I tried working for an IT firm from home with commission based work with no luck. It took me until August or September to finally land my current job. I lost a few friends and have been ostracized by my extended family because I don’t agree with their political affiliations and they don’t agree that they support people who have made my work in the field of domestic violence and clinical work so much harder. Every time I felt like I was taking two steps forward, it felt like I would take four steps back.
In short; this year has been hell. But the one constant thing in my life has been my wonderful boyfriend always being there for me, letting me cry and vent, and not making me feel ashamed for being unemployed as long as I was or paying for more meals than me. He helps me clean my house when he stays with me on the weekends, he’s been a wonderful pet parent to my pets as well as his new kitty we rescued from under my car, and he’s just so generous with damn near everything he does. He cooks food for me when I’m having the worst days. He always surprises me with my favorite expensive coffee drinks or teas. He rubs my back without me having to ask. He does /so/ much for me that I’ve never experienced from the other men I’ve dated.
If things had continued to spiral like they were for me I don’t think I would be here willingly. I’ve called the suicide hotline more times than I’m willing to admit without his knowing. I’ve written goodbye notes to him and my mom before shredding them and getting rid of the evidence. I’ve taken drives in my car just to scream and cry without anyone hearing me.
His constant love and understanding toward me has pushed me forward again and again. And I’m just so grateful for him that I just had to put this somewhere.
I love you T. Thank you for everything. I couldn’t have faced the majority of this hellish year without you by my side. I can’t wait till we have our own place together and I can start returning the favors by seeing you every day instead of just every weekend. ❤️
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2020.11.21 14:23 NewCodeSource Ghostrunner Review: Runner's Paradise


Ghostrunner is a 2020 first person cyberpunk action game set in a post-apocalyptic world developed by the one more level and slip gate ironworks, published by 505 games with all in! games.
The game runs on unreal engine 4 and it shows. It’s weird how this rather small, almost indie game is showing me what this engine is capable of but I’m not complaining! You’ll see crazy big areas with sprawling cities and neon signs, dust covered industrial complexes and tunnelled laboratories. You’ll be exploring as varied of locations as this setting allows, while you fight your way atop dharma tower. Only when you stop to actually take a very close look at the environments do they seem a bit pixelated. Not that they are uninteresting, but the game rewards you for exploring the locations by giving you small artifacts as a reward. I mostly ignored this, however. I didn’t really want to slow down the breakneck pace of the game. Because fighting and platforming is what it does best. The game is a spectacle to look at during combat, with laser bullets and particle effects everywhere as you dash towards your foes to deliver swift and gruesome justice by slicing them in half. Oh also, despite me making it sound rather gory it never really revels in its violence. The gore is merely there to sell your efficiency as an assassin. Which shows me that the developers understand the fantasy they are trying to portray here. The performance remained absolutely buttery smooth all throughout, although certain puzzle levels were a bit much visually, and felt jittery and distracting to look at. I get what they were going for here, but with the environments looking so samey and even the walls constantly moving, I couldn’t but feel nauseous at times.
Onto sound! Firstly, the music is incredible! The soundtrack by Daniel Deluxe hits you with classic and heavy synthwave tunes that fit beautifully into the futuristic setting. The tracks are memorable too! Making them immediately recognizable when repeated and creating a strong sense for the characters and world. I’ve described the music as driving, and that’s exactly it’s function. In a way, it constantly motivates you to keep playing and get in tune with the games’ unique rhythm. It works as a form of reassurance, since the music goes uninterrupted by your deaths, so you’ll always be able to listen to it without interruption. What works just as well is the narration taking place mostly over voice-comms inside your head. There seem to be a set amount of lines planned in for each section of the game that don’t get repeated and simply continue to play once you respawn. This usually takes place during platforming sections which is the perfect time to be listening anyway. And no matter if you struggle with a section or not, the narration will be interesting to listen to. Importantly for this, the voice acting is really well done! There are only a few characters, but even the enemies have some fun lines that makes putting an end to them more gratifying.
Alright so I’ve already mentioned gameplay a few times, but it’s time to really get into the meat of things. The game wears all its influences on its sleave. It masterfully combines elements from games like doom, hotline Miami, Mirror’s Edge and even personal favourites like my friend Pedro. Your goal is to run along walls, vault through the air and swiftly manoeuvre by slowing down time through your dash and cyber-agility. Crucially, you die in one hit of…well anything. Anything looking slightly spiky or dangerous will beam a red tinted screen in front of you. So you’re a one-hit wonder, but so are your enemies! Well, almost all of them. The intent is for you to smartly recognize the layout of the combat areas, as well as where your enemies are positioned, and what weapons they wield. Since this is a first person game however, this often meant I would make my rounds scouting my opponents and the combat area a few times and dying, before deciding on what approach I would take. This makes it sound a lot more frustrating than it actually is however. Especially in your first deaths in each encounter you’ll always respawn with new information on what you will have to watch out for and how the enemies will react to your behaviour. In many ways this is a modernization of the trial and error game design that has lost popularity ever since the nineties and is only now getting revived because of the popularity in the hardcore gaming sphere. Once you decide on which route to enter the fight from and which enemies to take out first, execution is all that separates you from victory. Except not always. Because you’ll soon notice that split-second decision making is just as- if not more important. If your plan of attack fails, but you’re still capable of reacting to your enemies and exploit the new situation you’re in you’ll get an even more satisfying result. Often I knew that my strategy wasn’t really working out but I couldn’t come up with an angle that could make it work, and while brute forcing my way into it, found a surprising new path that I could take. These windows of opportunity will even pop up in the platforming sections, although not as often. The enemies will do their absolute best to keep you on your toes. Even the most basic enemies, just wielding pistols, have near perfect aim and will surprisingly often remind you to not underestimate them. Even they need to be countered by specific usage of the slow-down dodge. You’ll be facing off against all kinds of crazed militia. From machine-gun wielding foes that will spray their entire clip on you, requiring you to wait for them to empty their magazine. From enemies with shields that can only be attacked from behind, to sword wielding…uh…Japanese people that will test your reaction speed as you need to counter their dashes with your blade. Near the end the game will introduce even more powerful mutants. Including one enemy class of extremely fast exploding crawlers that I still have no idea of how I actually survived against them, always narrowly escaping from them with my heart pounding at full speed. Because these enemies are so varied, the game often does a good job at giving you challenges of varying degrees of difficulty. It’s clear when you’re just meant to feel badass while mowing them down, but it makes for a satisfying break from the usual self-carnage. I sometimes found the AI a bit odd however. For the most part, enemies seemed to always know about my position even behind walls, and I thought this was intentional. Only for the game to clearly signalize that in some encounters I would get a chance to kill them from behind while going completely unnoticed. While the sword and dash is all you need, they aren’t the only tools in your arsenal. You can also deflect enemy fire as well as equip one skill. These abilities are powerful, but require you to be charged up to use. There’s blink, allowing you to swiftly dash towards an enemy, cutting through everything in your path, tempest, a kinetic blast that will knock enemies away, smashing them against each other or walls, or knocking them off ledges, surge, a very videogame-y blade slash projectile, and lastly the ability to turn one foe against the others. My personal favourite. As mentioned, although powerful, these abilities usually take form as a sort of last reserve or ace in the hole, and are best used that way, in order to surprise enemies. All of the Runner’s move set can be upgraded, which is unlocked naturally by progressing through the game. You’ll be slotting these upgrades in a sort of Tetris style into a grid. With more powerful upgrades taking up more space. Unused room won’t go to waste however. As it’ll go into charging your skills faster. That’s it for the combat, but a surprisingly large part of this game is composed of platforming sections. These mostly utilize the grappling hook at your disposal, but also require you to use your dash just as creatively as the fights do. Here however, it was often apparent that a last bit of polish was missing. The wall running will often just not work, causing you to fall straight to your death, as well as the physics working in unpredictable ways, especially regarding momentum. You’ll suddenly slow down or loose speed entirely while trying to land in a certain place or vault over an object. Nowhere is this as noticeable as in them ore challenging sections near the end. Where you suddenly have your abilities in a place where you didn’t before. It shows the flaws of this momentum system by requiring you do wall-run and jump between walls for an extended period while desperately trying to avoid falling to your death, with the dash being less and less of a help because it will often just completely take away your speed. There’s also a bullet hell section that was just a straight-up nightmare for someone like me who hates that sort of thing. Especially because the way the hitbox of the Runner works, you’ll often be hit by objects when you think you shouldn’t have. I get that they can’t just make him extremely small and slim, but it’s annoying nonetheless.
Story-wise the game doesn’t really break any completely new ground. In many ways, it reads like a sort of introductory tale to the cyberpunk and post-apocalypse genres. You play as one of, once many cyber-enhanced Ghostrunners deployed by the architect of the tower, a giant structure harboring millions of humans after humanity went nearly extinct and the outside world became inhabitable. Mara, the architects former Partner betrays him however, killing both him and you in the opening of the game. You are later repaired by rebels trying to get atop the tower to take out mara and guided by the architect who is now an AI. Soon you notice that while the repairs of the Rebels were rather dodgy, they set your mind free, giving you free will and power to defy the architects orders. You help out the almost extinct rebels on the way to kill Mara, whose plan it was to forcibly create a species of mutated humans, capable of living in the outside world. Just as you do this however, the architect tries to take over your body, revealing that his own plan ofr humanity is to replace them with almost entirely cyberized beings. After defeating him aswell, the residents of the tower are finally set free to decide their own future. And create anew and democratic system. What I like about this story is not only the atypically hopeful ending, but also the fact that it doesn’t shy away from making actual statements. On the surface, it could be seen as the “both sides are actually bad” story it seems to lead upto from the start, but it’s actually more than that. Both villains had much more complex motives that fed into each other, as well as the fascinating web of lies the architect tells to the runner who repeatedly questions him. In theend, the people reject being led by egomaniacs deciding their future, and finally take matters in their own hands. Which , oh my, that’s quite *POLITICAL*
So let’s talk about the elephant in the room. The difficulty. This game is kind of known for being difficult. And while I personally can definitely see the issue with some sections, I had a relatively smooth ride through it. I found it tough and challenging but rarely frustrating. My problem is rather the lack of options regarding this. I usually avoid games that pride themselves on their difficulty because I think that’s just unnecessarily frustrating. Maybe I’m not the right person to speak on this, since the only Dark Souls game I’ve completed is Dark Souls 2, which is arguably the most frustrating of the bunch, but I really don’t get the point of games giving you no control over their difficulty. An option to make the runner take at least one or two more hits would do wonder for the accessibility of the game. It’s a shame because I truly believe this is a game that as many people as possible should get to play and enjoy. It fully transmits the essence of the cyberpunk genre. And, different from other cyberpunk games this year it actually has wall running. As well as, you know, having come out on its release date.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tyo-Q6H0YxA
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2020.11.19 23:35 No-Painting3500 NYC Lease Break w/ Order of Protection

I live in Brooklyn, NY and am currently trying to terminate my lease and move asap due to my personal safety. My landlord/management company is not responding to my emails or calls. A week ago, they said they would give me a call back which has yet to happen.
Context:
I've talked to a housing lawyer but he wanted to focus on possible rent control violations to terminate my lease. Doing some Googling, I see that in NY statute 227-c. Termination of residential lease by victims of domestic violence would allow me to terminate my lease but I need a notarized letter from an attorney or social worker.
I am not low-income and have not had to navigate finding a lawyer before. Should I focus on finding a domestic violence or housing attorney? Any advice would be helpful. Most hotlines I've talked to are charitable orgs and I feel guilty taking their resources.
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2020.11.14 21:16 zawica Dealing with domestic violence again...

I’m 26 (F) and I was with a physically abusive boyfriend when I was 19, for only about 4 months. Got the hell outta there. Hated it and hated him. Then I met the love of my life and dated him for 3 years, until one day he dumped me and blocked me with no warning. I was heartbroken. But then I found love again, last year. We moved in together at the beginning of this year. But now after being together for 1.5 years, he started getting violent. I can’t believe I’m in the situation again. And I don’t know what to do because he’s never like this, and it’s starting so far into our relationship...it doesn’t make sense. I don’t have any friends or family I can talk to about it (or about anything...). If anyone has dealt with domestic violence, please message me. I just need someone to talk to about it sometimes. Even just to tell someone what happened. I can’t always wait another 2 weeks for my next counseling appointment. And the domestic hotline drops you if you don’t respond right away (which I can’t always do because he’ll walk in the room when I’m trying to contact them).
Sucks being a loner and having to deal with really difficult things in life. Looking for someone to talk to. :/
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2020.11.09 01:39 IceCreamIceKween Why was I okay at first but now I'm a mess?

After I was raped, it was as if I were in a surreal dream world. He acted as if nothing had even happened. He put on a movie after. It was a cartoon. He laughed while watching it. Nobody was around to witness what had just happened and now he's acting as if he hadn't done anything even though he entered a violent and sadistic episode moments ago. He had strangled me during sex and was punishing me for something I posted online that he didn't like. He wrote a status on my own social media account saying something to the effect of 'I rape people'. He laughed hysterically then he wanted to watch cartoons and go to sleep with me.
I thought he was deranged and had some kind of mental disorder and I kept looking for clues among our friend group that other people saw it too. There was a lot of chaos and drama among our friend group, I never got the chance to address anything. The timing never seemed right. It didn't even occur to me to go to the police. I didn't see what happened to me as rape because I knew him. I had dated him and was seeing him on and off. He confessed to me that he was a victim of childhood sexual abuse early on in the relationship and his behaviour started to get erratic and abusive but it built slowly over time abs he'd later every abusive episode with saccharine efforts to win me back.
Then I got into a relationship with a guy who had been really sweet to me over the past year. He admitted he had a crush on me for a long time and when we got into a relationship, I had no issues with sex. I was completely fine having sex and this guy treated me very well. I didn't seem triggered by anything at all? Just a witness to some disturbing behaviour by some guy.
Then I started seeing stuff online. I fell down the rabbit hole because that guy had explicitly wrote a status after he had 'sex?' with me saying that he rapes people? It was such unusual behaviour I wanted to understand what had even happened. The psychology behind that behaviour. However google searches weren't effective at explaining the nuances of the situation I experienced. I had to pick key terms and then I just started obsessively reading and I haven't ever stopped?
I started searching and found videos on the Steubenville rape case and a feminist who dissected the event. She described the dynamic in which an entire community blames the victim and protects the perpetrator as "rape culture". I felt angry on the behalf of this anonymous victim I never even met. Then when I discovered that rape victims often develop ptsd as a result of their assault, I was curious what ptsd even was? I watched a video on YouTube about it and it said that ptsd has no cure. When I looked up the statistics of ptsd rates among rape victims, it was near 90%. Then it occurred to me that my rapist, as a victim of childhood sexual abuse probably had some kind of form of ptsd himself and that he punished me on purpose and tried to inflict me with the same mental ailment as himself. Later I had discovered that my rapist had sent me a friend request on YouTube. The history of the videos I had been watching was public. I felt so violated and it was like it sewn the seeds of my mental illness developing.
Over the years I would see news story after news story that followed the Steubenville pattern. Women getting revictimized by coming forward with their allegations, a cautionary tale to women considering coming forward yet I'd also see women urging and pleading for women to come forward because it could help "the next girl". My interests in researching sexual violence never was quenched. I would read statistics about assault and it would seem my story wasn't so unusual because it had a lot in common with so many others. My age, gender, the fact that I knew my rapist personally were all factors that were common among rape victims. I fit in a demographic. I was a statistic. I could become more knowledgeable about sexual violence statistics but the more Iearned, the more jaded I became. I saw that the world was broken. It didn't matter that there was psychological reasons why people lash out at rape victims like cognitive dissonance or just world theory. I became to realize that I mostly likely would never get justice for what happened to me. Not that I really wanted it anyways, but people acted as if I was obligated to try to get justice for the sake of his future victims. I told myself that can't be, that I was the only one. I saw statistics saying that rapists are often serial offenders. Statistically speaking, one rapist rapes an average of six different women. Rapists follow a similar pattern in all his relationships (according to the data).
So I did something bold, I started to ask women I had known he was around if he had sexually assaulted them. The very first woman I contacted, his ex, told me that he sexually assaulted her too. He attempted to groom her friend as well when they had broken up but he backed away when he was threatened.
When the #metoo movement started to gain traction, around the 2016 presidental election is when I decided I would report to the police about my rape. They were talking about rape so much in the media at the time. Trump had his own rape accusations. It became a talking point and I was seeing it daily. I thought I ought to report my rapist then because I knew now that it wasn't just me, he was doing this to other girls too. His last victim reported and there wasn't enough evidence to bring it to court. I knew statistically speaking, it's hard to get a rapist to be held criminally liable. The circumstances in which rape and sexual violence occur often don't allow much evidence. There is a lack of witnesses, it is a he said she said event, and even if there is rape kit (which I did not get) with semen samples it means very little because when rape occurs within the context of a relationship, the sex is assumed to be consensual even if that's not the case. With me that was the case, the abuse just escalated over time. I was really sexually unexperienced and he dropped tis bombshell on me about his sexual abuse as a child. It was as if I wasn't allowed to touch him, as it would trigger something. He moved through the relationship as if he were entitled to sex and needed to act out some sexual dominance and sadism for the demons in his own head but then he claimed that he was looking for love and nobody understands him.
Words didn't seem to really capture the nuances of our relationship. When I was doing the police report I became frustrated with the police attempting to make a written statement because I would describe the rape very factually, like I described the penetration and the cop would reply saying "so then he and you started having sex?". Sex implied consent, I remembered reading so. I became so angry that this cop for seeming so ignorant about sexual violence when it was their job to do so. I couldn't find the words because rape seemed to vulgar and didn't fit the narrative of what rape seems to look like.
They never did anything about my rapist. He got away with it. There wasn't enough evidence for it to go to court, which I expected would happen. However the police also manipulated me into reporting but then lied to me. The police urged me to report so it would help the next girl and they told me that even if I don't get justice for my own case, I'm still helping. They reassured me that I wouldn't have to see my rapist again unless it went to court, and that wasn't likely due to a lack of evidence. Yet they lied and they interviewed my rapist despite telling me initially that he would never know I reported him.
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So moving forward I was devastated at what the police did. It was like a betrayal. As if they wanted my rapist to know that I'm hurt and that he isn't going to be held accountable for his actions. I could imagine him loving that I am still thinking about him years later and trying to report him, as if seeing evidence of how much he hurt me and effected my mental health is exactly the point.
I told a mutual friend about the rape, and his reaction was to doubt me. He said that one time he overheard us have sex and it sounded consensual so I must be lying about the sexual abuse. Then he also told me that my rapist told him and a bunch of other guys that he lies to women about being a victim of childhood sexual abuse so he can get "sympathy sex". So I don't even know if he's actually a victim of sexual assault or what now. It's like he leaves all these sadistic minefields everywhere for me to find.
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So I told myself I wouldn't let him bother me. Some rape survivors become hypersexual after an assault, some become sex averse. I didn't want to be averse because I saw it as a victory for him. So I tried to date. The first guy I went on a date with after my rape report was a guy who told me his "crazy ex" accused him of rape and he almost got ten years in prison. I knew from my experience with reporting that if it had gone to court (which he claimed it had) then it means they did have evidence on him. So I was like, alright I'm on a date with a rapist and the entire point of this date is to prove to myself that not all men are rapists and try to attempt to move on with my life.
Then I met another guy from work who tried to spike my drink and who was obsessed with my history of sexual abuse and rape. He wanted me to tell him every detail of my rape. He told me his ex was a rape victim and laughed about it. He kept making rape apologist statements and rape jokes and tried to spike my drink. When I told people about what he did, literally every single person took his side.
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I was sexually harassed at work on multiple occasions. Three separate times, and every single time the man would get away with it. Endless excuses were made for them. They would claim it was a "misunderstanding" on my part. In some of those incidents I would be the one who was punished instead. I was fired after I reported sexual harassment at one job and at another I was forced to work with the man who was sexually harassing me and then punished when my performance at work dropped significantly. They threatened to fire me if my performance didn't improve but they wouldn't allow me to work with someone who wasn't harassing me. Another time I recorded my boss sexually harassing me and even with evidence they didn't do a single thing. They told me he would not be reprimanded because it would ruin his marriage. I never got any legal justice for the sexual discrimination or harassment I was facing at work. I keep obsessing over uploading the video on twitter or YouTube and tagging the company responsible for not doing anything. ...
I have made efforts to make the guy accountable for trying to spike my drink but literally not a single person cares? People claim to hate rapists in theory but when you tell them about a guy, they become skeptical.
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So now I have just lots of anxiety? I'm starting to think nobody actually understands consent. Nobody respects me as a person either. When I am outspoken about sexual violence or my experiences, people start to judge me instead. People are starting to call me weak, passive, shy, submissive. They accuse me of being "attracted to" rapists or bad guys and laugh and ask me questions like "where do you MEET these guys".
It's like they are all collectively gaslighting me. They claim I have a victim complex or that I hate all men or that I am a masochist. When I attempt to become more assertive, men think it's hilarious and love to push my buttons. I am very averse towards casual sex and especially dominant men and I voice my preferences during sex but people laugh at me for it? Like the fact that I don't want to be sexually submissive is HILARIOUS to people. They mock me and say I don't have an assertive or dominant presence and that I'd much prefer sexually submission instead. Some men take it really far and claim that they would "force me" to enjoy it.
I have been single for YEARS since my sexual assault report and I have tried very very very hard to connect with people again. I've tried hard to date but I am very aware of sexual violence. I know how probable it is and what the red flags are. And because I am so informed on it, people think I am eccentric, paranoid and crazy. They laugh at me for quickly discarding men who violate my boundaries and then act like its more "evidence" that I think all men are rapists or that I have a victim complex.
People also act like I'm being narcissistic by virtue of recognizing when a man is sexually harassing me. As if I am bragging about how attractive I am when I complain about how many men have sexually harassed me, some people have made efforts to insult my appearance. I have become incredibly aware of my appearance. When I put effort into my appearance, it gives the illusion that I'm doing well mentally but then it attracts unwanted attention and then I wonder if I can even reclaim my sexuality? I'm called beautiful, I'm called insecure, I'm called ugly.
People call me shy sometimes and it makes me think of things I read about predators targeting shy women because they perceive them to be easy targets due to a lack of assertiveness. They assume they will be easy to assault because they won't fight back. When people call me shy it's as if they are telling predators what an easy target I am. And I know there is no consequences for rapists so it's like my world is ending and they have no clue.
People keep describing my character as if it is so pathetic and it's the reason I was targeted for abuse. I remember reading about how female politicians are targeted for rape threats, regardless of their appearance, regardless of their assertiveness (which it takes a lot of to be in politics). I can't understand why other people don't "get it" and they are starting to really stress me out. As if the entire world thinks I'm some kind of shy, pathetic, weak victim and also its quite hilarious too. As if they know I'm just going to keep getting sexually harassed and pissinly even assaulted again until I age out of the demographic I guess. People are telling me to shut up now when I talk about sexual violence, feminism or politics. They say I'm annoying when I talk about it.
One of my friends called a woman who stabbed her rapist to death a "psycho" and said she should have gone to the police. He knows about my experience reporting rape and he knows it's statistically unlikely they'll do anything.
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I don't know what to do anymore. I loathe people. I think they are stupid and put ego over altruism. I can't find the support I need in a single place I look for it. I've been to the police, I've been to therapy, I've tried reaching out towards friends/family, I've tried to spread awareness I've called crisis hotlines when I need to.
When I talk to crisis hotlines they pretty much just ask if I'm having suidical thoughts and if I have a "plan". I'm so familiar with scripts now. Hotlines like RAINN refer me to a therapist but I've stopped seeing two therapists. One for laughing at an inappropriate moment and another for her being uncomfortable with my political views.
My stress is starting to manifest physically in insomnia, dissociation, anxiety attacks, depression spells and dreams. I can't really trust anybody that I attempt to form a relationship with, I just think they don't get it or if they do, they don't have my best interests in their heart. I've become a subject of bullying by a group of people who think I'm whiny.
I can't get away from it but I must work and stress is building at work. There's a manager there that is somewhat inappropriate and he has mostly been bothering this one girl but soon I'm afraid he'll turn his attention towards me.
I think honestly I'd be fine if people just "got it" but I'm honestly just losing my mind here because my efforts to make people understand just makes me a target. I'm starting to get angry honestly and the taunting and disrespect I get from men might just send me over the edge. I am started to fall into sadistic ways of thinking and then it's like I am becoming similar to my rapist.
I tell myself that I need to practice some sexual domination in order to process my rape and move on and I'm getting really sexually frustrated because nobody wants to participate or help me out? Men find it emasculating to do the things I want to do and try to insist I'll love penetration or submitting to them instead. They don't understand what aversion is and I really need some new sexual experiences to replace the bad but I only feel safe in a dominant role. Then men and others laugh at my attempts to be dominant as if I'm trying to prove something rather than it being an "innate" quality. I think it's massively cruel because they know about my rape. They don't want me to heal. They don't want me to have new sexual experiences that aren't rape or terrifying experiences for me like men insisting I will submit to them and enjoy it. When people realize its a trigger for me it delights them and they push my buttons, like a group of kids using fireworks to trigger the veteran. It's like they also want me to think that I am inherently submissive and dominance cannot be learned or acquired. It's like they are reinforcing learned helplessness in me but then hate when I complain of sexual harassment and wonder why I attract so many fucked up men.
I think I'm losing my mind here. I'm afraid one day I'm going to snap like one of those women who have been abused too much for too long and stabs her abuser to death. Except I don't have an abuser or boyfriend at the moment, I'm averse to relationships because of my trauma. I don't want to date unless I trust them and often I end up ghosting bc there are too many red flags.
I am alone and I'm being mocked for my struggles by those around me who know what I'm going through?
People are insisting I am being sensitive and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because it is triggering for me for people to think in sensitive bc I think it makes me a target for their abuse and they know I have a history of abuse so why are they doing it? Are they trying to provoke me, mock me? It doesn't seem like they are ever trying to help me.
I should have just kept it all inside. It's so foolish to tell people even though they insist that doing so is brave, healing, helps the next girl or reduces stigma. This has not been one of those experiences and its so strange bc at this point in my life I relate more to my rapist than other people.
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2020.11.05 07:00 imisshoneymoonstage My abuse story. I was tortured by a pathological liar

Trigger warnings: Mention of suicide and mental illness and violence...
I wanted to sit down and write the story of how I met my abuser of an ex. Every other time I felt the urge to do this, I felt too drained from work and what not. My anxiety and depression over it is eating me up atm so I am trying to do this now.
This story is going to be long. I apologize in advance. I just need to get this out of me.
Let's call my ex, 'Nate'. No, not his actual name.
We met at a Halloween seasonal job in 2019 that we were both working at. I (38F), at least, caught a glimpse of Nate (33M) moving around with a walking stick and thought that it was a bit odd. He seemed like he was having trouble walking, like he had a limp.
Later I learned it was because he broke his ankle earlier that year from what I remember him telling me, and had to have screws and what not put in it during surgery. Anyhow, we officially met on the night of orientation of our job. We were going through a training exercise, and Nate had been working at this job for over ten years. I was one of the new employees that was supposed to help be trained by the more experienced employees. Nate immediately picked me out.
I will admit, I didn't think he was that physically attractive to begin with, but his personality at the time was charming, infectious... And I found myself quickly bonding with him. I felt like I always wanted to hang out with him, at least as a friend. I felt like we instantly clicked together. We spoke as if we were even best friends that might of known each other for years. One of our mutual friends who also worked with us even pointed that out-- That our chemistry seemed perfect and like we had known each other for years.
The thing is, when I opened up to Nate about how old I really was about a week later after the training (he thought I was in my 20's, as I tend to look younger than I appear), and when I blurted out that I am also a content creator on youtube, he immediately started hitting on me. Flirting with me. I reciprocated.
Nate asked me out on a date to a festival. We went the next day after our first weekend officially working together (week after orientation.) For the most part, it was fun-- Although he spoke of something that seemed to conflict with me. He mentioned polygamy, and how some of his friends were at this festival that are considered 'poly'. I think he was trying to read how I felt about that, and I remember he said, "Well, I am monogamous." Now I felt like back then, it was potentially the first of many lies that he ended up telling me throughout our relationship. Some guy approached him at the festival and was hostile towards Nate, like the other guy hated him. I didn't understand why. At the time, Nate wanted to introduce me to another female friend of his, and I think this guy was the boyfriend of said friend, but I don't remember. But it did throw me off. Nate was reassuring the other guy, pointing at me, and saying that I was Nate's 'main', which again set off another red flag. I also remember one of Nate's ex-girlfriends approaching him at the festival, subtly bringing up her wanting to get back together with him, I guess..? I think she was jealous of how well Nate was treating me on the date.
You know, if I was a sensible person, I probably should of taken all these events as a sign that dating Nate was a bad, bad idea. I should of just ended the date and asked him to take me back home. I didn't. I tried to overlook the negative. I tried not to be shallow even. After that first date, I remember that he rushed things really hard, to the point where there were constant red flags again. At the time, again, I felt so happy that I was trying to overlook them. I know I should of been more responsible and listened to the red flags, and I realize that I was being extremely foolish at the time.
Not that long after our first date, he already brought up how he wanted to marry me. He was starting to pick out the wedding colors himself. I felt the red flag burning really strong, and I even told him on the spot how that felt. At the same time though-- Again, I was being stupid and I just felt like-- Almost like this was meant to be? That just was how it felt. It was the honeymoon type of period and everything felt right despite the red flags that came up. I was comparing this to the story my parents (who also tend to be toxic and abusive) told me of how they met. My dad had said he immediately fell in love with my mom, and knew she was the one, so I just thought that maybe in this instance, I was going through the same thing with Nate.
We continued to work together at the Halloween seasonal job for about 6 weeks. Nate constantly wanted to go out on dates with me about at least once a week on an off day, mostly going out to eat. I remember he paid for them mostly, though at times I also maybe paid for half of the said date. We sometimes took turns I guess paying for something from what I remember. I wanted to treat him like an equal.
Nate made me feel so special. I was deliriously happy. Everyone that saw us interact were jealous, they commented how Nate even seemed perfect. I thought I found the one. Once our seasonal job wrapped up, I remember Nate brought up how he wanted us to move into an apartment. He wanted us to live together. He felt that 'sure' about me, even though we were only dating for maybe a little over a month. At the time, we both were in toxic living situations. He was living with his mother, who he claimed was treating him poorly (and probably was tbh). Nate did also bring up how he dealt with living in his car, being homeless... I was living in a physically bad environment of a house, with a not-so-great but okay roommate. That situaton in itself is a long story that I don't want to dive into. At that time, I felt stuck. I had limited income (I had been on disability income and the Halloween seasonal job was the first job I had since I had gotten on disability a number of years ago). Nate was the only person at the time that I trusted to show where exactly I lived, in a house that was falling apart, with floors that were kinda caving in already, and probable mold in the structure, bugs... Not to really go too far into it. It just was physically bad.
Nate would come over and spend the night with me in the room I was renting in this house. He did this at least once a week. At the time, he acted like he always wanted to spend time with me. When we were together, we would lie in bed and just talk (and yes, we were physically intimate too). Something else I remember was he claimed to be able to see other spirits. Claimed he could communicate with them. He even acted like he was talking to a spirit in front of me on at least two occasions.
While we were starting to look into finding an apartment (his mother was also pressuring me to get him out of her place, as she lived in a senior living community and Nate wasn't allowed to stay with her), he also insisted we both get 'promise' type of rings (not engagement rings.) He got me a garnet gem ring, and he got this silver and bronze band ring. Nate also wanted us to celebrate monthly anniversaries. On our first month anniversary, he went all out to take me out on an incredible date-- Took me to build-a-bear to get a plush animal, of a bunny, one of my favorite animals. I cherished this plush rabbit throughout our entire relationship.
We were also exploring the 'daddy' and 'little' fetish, among other things, so we did eventually have a daddy and little relationship dynamic. The plush rabbit became an important piece of that whenever I was in 'little' type mode. The rabbit also just became something comforting that I often would cling to, especially when I would sleep.
We eventually found an apartment. Nate initially seemed hestitant to go through with applying for a lease, but I helped kinda push him as he was communicating beforehand how much he wanted us to live together. I foolishly applied for a 1 year lease with him. With both our incomes combined (he had just gotten a job at a supermarket at the time), we got approved. We moved into this apartment mid-December 2019. At first, I felt happy. Nate wanted us to go meet my parents (in another state that was 10 hours away of a drive). He wanted to already meet my parents... And keep in mind, we had only been dating for a couple of months at this point.
But, I foolishly thought-- It couldn't hurt. Nate seemed perfect. Why not? We went on a road trip to visit my parents. My youngest brother (I'll give him the fictional name of 'Steven') was also at my parents' house. We all spent Christmas together. While it was relatively okay and somewhat positive, despite my own family tending to be toxic and at least emotionally abusive, Nate quietly brought up to me how he felt uncomfortable at times around them. How Steven wanted Nate to play guitar often. Little things.
On Christmas eve (which was actually Nate's Birthday), we all went to one of my cousin's houses where a small family reunion with her family was going on (my family and I, along with Nate, were invited.) Immediately after we arrived at the house, Nate accidentally twists his broken ankle on the curve of the driveway. He screamed really loud in pain. I felt helpless. My cousin and her husband tried to help him. Nate wanted him and I to sit out a bit on the reunion, he was really upset about how my brother laughed when Nate accidentally hurt his broken ankle again. My cousin gave Nate an ice pack for the ankle. For most of the reunion, Nate kept wanting to just separate from the rest of the family-- Walk outside. I forgot to mention that Nate does vape, and he had an addiction to it, and wanted to vape constantly, which was why he wanted to mainly go outside in the cold.
What Nate and I didn't really know was that my family got him a birthday cake. When we came back inside, they surprised him with it. He acted surprised and grateful and happy. He wasn't really happy though. He wanted to leave.
When Christmas was over, we did drive back to our apartment. Immediately afterwards was when I noticed a strong shift in the relationship.
One of the first things I remember was he pushed for me to apply for another job. At the time, I struggled with the fear of generally going back to work in general and the Halloween seasonal job was an experiment for me to dip my toes back in the working waters. Keep in mind, prior to this, I had been on disability income, also struggling with mental illness and chronic pain in my bladder (I had inherited a condition called 'painful bladder syndrome' or 'interstitial cystitis'.) Regardless, I thought since we were living in an apartment now, that I should try to find another job. After applying to at least 9 places, I eventually found a job at a different supermarket. I started working there in January 2020. Yes, right before Covid-19 really hit us.
Early January 2020 though, we had our 3 month anniversary-- Or at least I thought we were. In December, we skipped doing anything for our anniversary. This time, in January, Nate acted like he didn't care about the monthly anniversary routine so much. He also was apparently feeling sick. He asked me to go walk down to a local resturant and get us take out food. He was not acting very kind at the time, where I even asked him what he wanted, and he said, "You should remember my favorite dish there." ... I felt I had to figure it out myself.
So I walked down (it was within 1 mile, I didn't have access to my own car, btw). I got us the take out, along with a greeting card for him. I did this thing where I at times would buy him a greeting card and I would write love letters in it, which I did so in this case.) When I returned to the apartment, I put all the food for him on a serving tray, along with the card and I quietly just handed it to him. I honestly wanted him to notice the card, I thought maybe it would cheer him up or indicate to him that I wanted reassurance. My anxiety was really getting to me, and I was also feeling incredibly depressed over this anniversary.
The next thing I remember from that day, was he showed appreciation for the card and food-- But not long after, he asked me to sit down in a chair in our living room of the apartment and Nate said he wanted to talk. He said I wasn't allowed to speak, and that I couldn't 'interrupt' him. He claimed I was interrupting him often, when really, he would talk over me most of the time and wouldn't let me interject or contribute to the conversation equally. Sometimes I guess I might accidentally have interrupted him, but it wasn't as constant as he was making it out to be.
Anyhow, he proceeded to just-- Ramble and rant about his life. He was going through all the events, from when he was a child, to the present. Every bad thing that ever happened to him-- And I admit, I was struggling to really be able to pay attention because I do struggle when someone talks excessively or for a long time really. And I wasn't allowed to stop him from talking or to even say anything. It was like he wanted to unload things from his past. The way he went about this though was not really very kindly, he was showing more of his cold side. I eventually started to cry when it really got to me that I wasn't allowed to speak. I felt powerless. At the time, he also hadn't been wearing his promise ring for some days, and it was eating away at me to the point where I had taken off my own promise ring as well.
I think it took at least half an hour or so for him to finish rambling. It might of been an hour honestly. I don't remember anymore. But Nate did then ask me to go with him into the bathroom. He then sat on the toilet, mentioned something along the lines of needing to 'dump' everything out-- While he was literally going #2 on the toilet. He then pulled out his own promise ring out of nowhere, and asked me to go get mine-- And he then suddenly smiled out of nowhere, was placing the rings back on our hands as if we were having some sort of wedding ceremony-- And he said, with his personality changing back to being charming and warm, "Happy Anniversary!"
I broke down. I sobbed. I was angry. I told him then that if he ever did something like that again that I was going to break up with him. When I look back on this now, I wish I had broken up with him right then and there.
Honestly, everything from January 2020 and onwards is more of a blur to me now. We were both working in our grocery store jobs. The pandemic hit us in March 2020. I almost got fired in February 2020 when I got sick with an upper respitory infection because of the work probation period. The quarantining was happening. We both were stuck in the apartment most of the time.
Other things I remember:
Early on when we started living together, I was playing a video game on my PC. We both had our PCs in the living room of the apartment. Nate started making me feel guilty for playing this video game, claiming I was playing too much-- When I would maybe play for maybe a couple of hours in the day, while I wasn't at work.
Nate continued to interrupt me, blaming me for interrupting him instead. We couldn't talk as easily anymore. That chemistry was no longer there since December 2019/January 2020. The honeymoon phase for me only lasted 3 months.
He was no longer acting like the man I originally met at the start of our relationship. I realized after awhile, when we had met, he was presenting a different mask of himself, another illusion. A different person.
Things also got to the point where when we were arguing, I started to not be able to handle it well. I was getting more angry, slamming doors, sometimes running away in the night. These things tended to happen when Nate wasn't treating me well, or being emotionally or psychologically abusive to me. I admit, I could have reacted better in those instances and I tried to take accountability for them and find a therapist and get help.
One of the more troubling things was that I started catching him in multiple lies. He was compulsively lying throughout our relationship. Sometimes about things that didn't warrant lying about, like having weed in the apartment. Or lying about who he was texting, saying it was a manager at his work when it was really a mutual friend of ours.
He was also expressing grief he had for his dad who died 5 years prior. It seemed like it was still fresh to him. I tried to be understanding and supportive, but I struggled because it seemed like he wanted me to comfort him with this all the time-- And after awhile, it became harder to understand how to show support.
He also expressed that he wanted to go back to Italy and find this woman who he had sex with there at least once, and claimed he had gotten her pregnant and he wanted to find her again. At first, I tried to be understanding of this, but after the 2nd or 3rd time of him mentioning this, I just said that maybe he should just go back on his own accord and find her himself... That I couldn't help him with that problem.
Everything was just piling on... The lies, the instances where he mistreated me... And later on, I also realized that he was trying to get me to react to his instances of mistreating me, and I later learned this is called 'reactive abuse,' on my end.
Nate started mentionally all these things that were wrong with me. Shifting blame onto me. Making me feel guilty. Lying some more.
In May 2020, there was a day where Nate was lying to my face. Saying that I wasn't paying him my share of the rent. He kept saying, "You are not paying rent, you are not paying rent..." over and over. I -was- paying rent, and if it wasn't the full amount, it would have been communicated at the time as sometimes finances were not the greatest. Also, Nate was also manipulating me with my finances, talking me into getting something like a Mincraft gaming server, or going on a weekend vacation, etc... But on this one day, with him lying to me about the rent not being paid, it was twisting with my head. He was F-ing with my head, to the point where I tried to run out onto the apartment balcony and jump off of it to kill myself. Nate stopped me. I think a part of me wanted him to stop me, wanted him to be nicer to me, wanted him to be loving and kind and wonderful-- And I do regret attempting suicide.
While he stopped mistreating me so much for awhile after that incident, he did talk to me. Made me feel ashamed for trying to kill myself. Speaking of what he would of had to do if I had done that. How it would have affected the other neighbors of the apartment complex. How he would of had to contact my family, my friends-- How he would of been there at my funeral. He was talking about it as if he was glorifying it. I told him that I wouldn't try to kill myself again, that I would try to find a proper therapist. I was struggling doing all these things and trying to hold this grocery store job that was intense for me, working 5 days a week during the pandemic... In July 2020, Nate convinces me that we should go get gym memberships and start working out together. I get a training membership, which is expensive, but Nate said he would pay for it. I sign a contract, and Nate provides his payment info. I trusted him. We went to the gym together at least a couple of times before August.
Well, August 2020 rolls around, and my other brother (I am going to give this brother the fictional name of 'Ross') dies. Ross commited suicide. Obviously, I broke down. I couldn't work for 2 weeks. The funeral was even held off for 3 weeks because of Covid19. And at first, Nate acted supportive and loving. Said he would go with me to the funeral. But seemingly the next day, I watch him pick out a suit for the funeral, which was reassuring me and comforting me in my grief. I was bedridden at this point, and I fell asleep to take a nap. I wake up 2 hours later, to Nate telling me that he spoke with his mother and she convinced him to not go to the funeral with me. I was extremely upset, I wanted his support, and I admit, after awhile, I grew resentful.
When it was time for me to fly down to my parents' state again to visit my family for the funeral, I expressed to Nate that I wanted us to talk on the phone. I needed his emotional support. I wanted to talk to him at night about what was going on. How I didn't want to go by myself. I didn't want to be with my family, by myself.
While I was attending the funeral, I start getting harrassing telemarketing type calls from the gym (the one I joined with Nate back in July 2020). They said that Nate's debit card was being declined. I was literally attending Ross' funeral, and I couldn't deal with this-- As confused as I was.
Not only was that happening, but Nate was not texting me really, or hardly at all. He also wasn't calling me. I was pulling teeth and practically begging him to call me. The night before my brother's funeral, Nate apparently invited a couple of 'guy friends' over to the apartment to have a guy's night-- I was extremely distressed, but I was trying to wait and be understanding. I waited until it was 11pm at night, and my anxiety shot through the roof. I texted him, begging him to call me and that I needed to talk to him. I needed his emotional support. I ended up calling him. He said his friends had just left, but later told me that he had one of his friends listen in on our phone conversation-- To let them hear me scream and yell as I was so angry with Nate with how much he was disregarding my pain and my grief and how much I needed him and I felt like he was blowing me off. We argued. Nate said I was being inconsiderate of his 'guy time'. I really struggled...
We had a healthier phone conversation the next day, after the funeral was over. When I returned from the funeral a day or two later, Nate picked me up at the airport, and immediately gave me a thermometer and told me to take my own temperature. He treated me like some infected patient, convinced that I had Covid-19 because I had to travel by plane. He immediately forced me to get a rapid test with him. Our tests were negative, btw. Things were steadily going downhill in our relationship. My mental health was deteriorating, and I was responding with reactive abuse more and more to when Nate wasn't treating me right. And again, I admit, alot of these instances are blurred for me now. I was really trying to find a therapist at least though, trying to get help. It was like I was the problem, that everything was my fault.
In late August, one night came along that was the straw that broke the camel's back for me. I noticed Nate was texting someone at nearly midnight. My insecurity was gnawing at me, and I asked him who he was texting. He said it was his manager at work. I looked at the clock and brought up "You are texting your manager at this hour?" He insisted he was.
I admit, I did snoop through his phone later that night while he was in the shower. I found out he was texting a mutual friend of ours, this female college student (22F-ish?) who I will give the fictional name of 'Rose.' From the look of the texts, it seemed innocent enough, but I was troubled that he would even lie about who he was texting. Like I said, at this point, he was lying compulsively, about anything and seemingly all the time and it was one of the biggest struggles with the relationship. I also went through his email on another day, and I found out he was $1.6k in overdraft fees with his bank-- And he was keeping it a secret from me for at least a month (this was why the gym were calling me during my brother's funeral, Nate's card was getting declined because of the overdraft fees.).
I confronted Nate about the overdraft charges and that I knew about them, and he then said that it was MY fault for making him go into overdraft. I want to point out that this wasn't the first time he went into overdraft issues with his bank, it happened months prior to this too and back then, I paid something like $180 to help him get out of it. This time, I didn't have $1.6k to spare and even if I did, I wasn't going to help with that much money.
On the same evening that I caught him texting Rose, I overheard him say while he was in the shower, speaking to himself, "I'll just have her be locked away..." He was speaking in a creepy tone. I don't know if he knew I was listening to him or if he thought he was alone, but I made the mistake of saying out loud, "I heard you."
I packed a backpack and ran off in the middle of the night. I had a breakdown. I sat on a swing in the park. I called a crisis hotline. I also called a crisis center and got to speak with a psychiatrist that morning. Though I knew the relationship was over. However, I was stuck on this apartment lease with Nate. I felt 'stuck' in a nightmare of a living situation. I tried to live with him civilly even though I did break up with him.
At the same time, I found out he invited Rose over to the apartment. He said he was inviting a 'friend' over. I texted Rose because I suspected it was her, and I asked her if Nate invited her to the apartment. She confirmed it, and seemed confused because she thought Nate told me about it. I then informed her about Nate being overdrawn in his bank account, and how he also had just lost his supermarket job at the time... And she acted oblivious, but also defensive kinda of Nate. It got to the point where I asked her to let me know whenever he was inviting her over (they both said they were recording a single for her as she is a singer and Nate does produce music in his spare time also). I communicated to both in the end that I would rather they just tell me whenever they were meeting at the apartment, and to do so while I was at my own job, working. I wanted at least the courtesy of communication of what they were doing. Rose was not happy with my controlling this situation. She said she didn't have to tell me when she was going over to the apartment but that she would tell me anyway (which she did in texts). I actually broke up with Nate in early Sept 2020, after Rose told me via text that Nate was planning to remove me from the lease himself.
They both made me feel like some control freak. Like I was the problem. That was how it felt, but I felt like my boundaries were also being violated. Like they didn't care how I felt about the whole thing. Rose also wasn't really believing me when I was trying to communicate how I was struggling with Nate, how he wasn't communicating, how he was lying, etc.
Around Sept 5th, 2020, shortly after I broke up with Nate, he was communicating how he wanted to get back together with me, but at the same time, he was continuing to lie and also treat me coldly. I felt confused and torn. I was open to the idea of getting back together, but only if he was showing he was willing to get help for the lying, and that he wanted to change. He wasn't showing he wanted that. Sometimes he would purposefully ignore me if I was trying to talk to him, and what not. He was acting cold all the time at this point. Everything that happened up to the point, was eating away at me.
Again, on Sept 5th, he made me so upset with the way he was treating me that I ended up losing it. I was screaming and yelling for 30 minutes straight. I didn't care anymore. It felt good-- And before this, he was saying that I was the one with the issues, that I shouldn't yell at him or be angry at him. At this point though, I stopped caring. I wanted control back. At the end of the 30 minutes of my yelling and screaming, he attempted to spit on my face. I called the police as I knew this was considered physical assault. I don't know what Nate told them, but the police convinced me that we could work this out-- They did mention I could file a protection order, but I didn't understand what that was at the time, what it entailed, or how it would of helped me. No one explained it.
I gave Nate another chance to try to work at this with me. This ended up being a massive mistake.
At the end of Sept, things were getting worse. Around the 20th, he was lying on the couch... And I was sobbing. I came out into the hallway, wanting him to notice me crying. He purposefully ignored me. At one point, he turns to look at me and smile sadisically. Like he was enjoying seeing me crying. I was struggling because I felt like I couldn't trust him anymore, and I didn't know when he was lying or telling the truth. I didn't think he was being genuine or caring anymore, and that sometimes he was just pretending like he was being caring. It really ate at me. I broke that night. Again.
I took the plush rabbit that he gave me on our first month anniversary (from Nov 2019), and I cut it up with a pair of scissors. I did this in front of him. A part of me was hoping he would react differently than he did... But the way he did react was just looking at me as if I was a psycho, judging me. He asked, "What are you doing..?" He wasn't upset. He wasn't even afraid. I tore that rabbit into pieces. I threw parts of it at him even. I felt so broken, I wanted him to see what he did to me. Everything that he did and how he treated me and how he made me feel. The next thing I remember was him getting up and walking towards me-- I was on edge, I didn't know what he was going to do, and I felt threatened. I had the scissors in my hand still and I pointed them at him, and I told him to back off- To keep away from me. That I wanted space. I immediately put down the scissors after that and stepped back.
He smiled really big, in that sadistic way. Like he had gotten something he wanted. He got his coat then, was leaving-- He took pictures with his phone of the plush rabbit I destroyed. Saying he was going to get someone (he was implying mental health workers to come and get me, with the air of threat that I was going to be taken away.). I was angry and upset again at this point, and I was yelling at him. I was done. I told him how he couldn't hurt me anymore. How he could no longer control me. Things along those lines. I wanted control back and I was realizing that he was being controlling and manipulative throughout our entire relationship.
Nate then turned around and said with a growl, "RUN!"
I was shocked, silenced. Stunned.
He changed his voice into something sinister, and said, "They are coming to get you.". He was smiling, again, sadistically. Evilly really.
He left. I sobbed and cleaned up the mess of the rabbit.
I ended up being taken away by police later that night for an emergency psychological assessment at a hospital. The next day, Nate had filed a protective order against -me.- I was confused, in extreme distress, and I ended up having to move out of the apartment and back where I was living prior to the relationship with Nate. A couple of days later, I filed my own protection order against Nate for him having spit on my face in early Sept 2020. We cross filed against each other, went to court, and we agreed before a judge that we would leave each other alone for a year. I never went through anything like this in my entire life--- I later found out that Nate had another protective order filed against him back in 2012 by another girl. I wasn't the only one.
I also found out through others that know his true nature that he actually hated his father. And that whenever he was acting like he was in grief, he was most likely just trying to get me to pity him or show him attention.
I don't know what else to say anymore. I'm still picking up the pieces of my life. I ended up paying off the gym membership debt that accumulated because of him, and I got my gym membership cancelled thankfully. I also was able to get Nate to remove me from the lease successfully. He now has the apartment all to himself.
I'm drained now. I feel vulnerable even having shared this. I sometimes still think that maybe I am a monster too because of the scissors incident... That I am a criminal. I regret that night that I cut up the plush rabbit, and I especially regret having pointed the scissors at my ex. I was never going to hurt him, I never even tried to hit him with the scissors, but he tells everyone else now that I was abusing -him- and that I am the monster and that he is the victim. I feel like my life is just about ruined. But I am now trying to save up my funds towards a car for myself. I also plan after that to move elsewhere nicer. I don't know what the future holds for me anymore. I'm still healing. I hate what has happened. I hate what Nate did to me, everything he ever did. I feel like a massive idiot.
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2020.10.28 23:17 u-turnshe I rewrote this for anybody who has the time and the heart to help GIVE ADVICE TO my daughter with this unnecessary situation when it comes to fighting their DVfather abusive Court matter

Their father recently worked for the local internet company and decided to spy on me. He has admitted it openly. I don't have perfect evidence but enough harassing and threatening text messages stating he knows everything and he doesn't care. He made comments that only you would know if you had read all my emails. I lost a lot of evidence after, I lost the online accounts. I could not seem to share any data from Mobile to computer and it was impossible to connect to any printers. I went to a few stores hoping that I could print off from Dropbox or an email but I realized that their security system was not having it and I was possibly risking their printers.
He later quit the internet company to work for the electric company and a little for Microsoft .
Once he spied on me long enough that he felt he had enough dirt on me. Enough to blackmail me to raise my child support to a unaffordable an unreasonable amount. When I already paid 100% for the children and paid a good amount of child support every month to him when I had them 40% of the time . I could not afford to pay it.
Which then gave him more reasons to be more agressive and threatening towards children and I. His famous lines were, You don't pay you don't see them! So I give him whatever I could afford at that moment on top of everything else. So they could be their mother and grandparents in peace and a moment without fear of their father. He decided to kidnap my younger one during the summer right before I was going to take her on her summer vacation with a girlfriend and brother. I would have always had her that summer month. I knew she was going to be forced to stay in a basement while everybody had fun and even worse he would take the phone from the children even if I purchase and financially supplied it. My children have been going through domestic violence mentally and somewhat physically their entire life.
The day of the trial hearing, I had denial of service attack. Which is where I could not get Wi-Fi nor data on mobile. That I have always paid for.
Which made it so my alarm didn't go off and I was late for trail hearing! The judge said we are going to get a guardian of alliance to see if I go to jail for all the ridiculous untruthful contempt hearings we had for a stretch of 8 months. We never even had a parenting plan. The judge insisted in courts insisted we did.
The GAL said the children would be safe with me if I was more stable. got the children need to spend more time with me which surprised me because she was not nice to me in the beginning she had her mind made up about me but she could see that the children and I were very close. She recommended that the children live with my parents because I removed around too much. I was unsure why she said that but when you search me and do a background check it says online it I have about 7 more addresses than I actually never lived at. She basically stated everything I had been trying to prove to the courts was true! She stated multiple times that our kids were not safe with him and his wife. Why would they go out of their way to hire one if they weren't going to listen to her?
My son , 17 yrs, even went to court and filed for two restraining orders & provided proof of physical abuse and he to was denied. The judge did not seem to feel as if there was any abuse .
I received a call from my children's father right before our trial. I was hoping you wanted to discuss the children. Or even better call his son that he had been neglecting for 6 months. He refused to go back to his house. After he was physical attacked his father and wife. After picking up his phone call I noticed that he wasn't actually on the line and from the receiving end I could hear loud sounds of screeching computers. Similar to a fax machine nose. I that something bad might have happened because I know the type of person he is. I'm sure what to do, I just moved on.
I would like to make this shorter than it needs to be so I don't bore anybody who is still reading thank you.
Shortly after that I lost all my online accounts and had a brute Force attack.
My last pass and keeper did not help me either because I couldn't reach them. Or because they chose not to help me. I did notice the last time I was able to access my password manager that some of my accounts were changed. My passwords had turned into my social security number. Which I would never do! So my identity, and any form of privacy,and all my digital work, art and memories are gone. my whole digital Life. I worked online so I could be closer and home with my children. I truly loved it. So that was the issue for me I lost my online business and all my inventory I had already shipped off to the warehouses.
My son who is in high school lost a lot of his hard work and the Mac, I recently purchased for.
I could not access our router majority of the time. while my internet company, where he used to work decided to lie and not help me and said there's no such thing as a network hack.
I could not use my cellular data or Wi-Fi for 2 months. then it was just periodically sometimes I could connect sometimes I could not to my electronics. I lived in a very large home at the time. Majority of the family and roommates still could use the internet on some of their devices. I was the target the victim of this new attack.
I was panicking trying to reach my customers, the company that I subcontracted for but unfortunately I was redirected to spammers every time!
I ended up having to use all of my financial savings to pay rent and buy more mobile devices a new computer and any type of internet security I could possibly fine in a very small town. I could not buy anything else online I had too many online fraud charges that I was continuously fighting at the time. I could not use the vpns I always would get a server error and the antiviruses somehow were rerouted and I would continuously be locked out.
The new electronics I bought would be compromised and controlled within minutes to a day or two. thanks to the smart technology, Internet of things, and local routers . My family can't even reach out for help. With their hack devices. Some of my family members realized that their computer was compromised and replaced it but still too confused to recognize the problems. Internet services with the same local internet company I did. They are constantly having slow connections being overcharged, and additional charges like voice over IP .
I've purchased at least 10 phones in the last year. My cell phone companies either have no clue or ignored me or treatme as If I was a terrorist, who was just begging to get help controlling my data and my children's baby photos.
I've gone through over a hundred new emails . Since I kept losing access to them. Even though I had the password written down in front of me!! I had DNS poisoning so majority of the websites were outdated with viruses. redirected into a html script. I still can't seem to navigate online at all without getting a server error sometimes I can't even access Court forms. My mobile server which unfortunately is not the server that I paid for. Can't always find Wacourt.gov & washingtonhelp.org
I can't seem to talk to a lawyer that I've been approved for multiple times through the Northwest Justice project. For my mobile phone will consistently hang up. I can't call the non emergency 911. My emails don't go through or usually blocked by lost email services and always somehow blacklisted! The websites I visit seem to be cloned in insecure. My JavaScript would not give me access to majority of the security settings in all my browsers. There's always new extensions and apps and open source licenses for untrustworthy certificates being downloaded especially when I have to go back to that community to see my daughter for the courts have just changed things once again. In the past i cannot turn on or off family sharing when I didn't even have a family connected to that mobile device. Can't turn off USB tethering and Google pay and apple wallets have multiple transactions, not by me. PayPal is somehow connected to a new phone number of mine by an email that's similar to my name but it's not mine. I cannot turn on or off these settings for they are lightened out and unavailable for my electronic device. Sim card & ip always changed.
5000 $ in back child support when the courts knew that I could not afford to pay it and when I tried to fight it they would raise my pay and lower his it was not based off the Washington State child support worksheet. 6000$ in international charges hit my credit report along with new phone numbers, Nick names emails and home addresses. I Cant reach for help with the credit unions like Equifax. When my device have so much static white nose and then lose connection. If I try to connect my email account to a computer. It will say I need a physical key to access it. as if I set it up myself. when every computer I own now Is broke or has locked me out.
I gave up but was sad because I could not keep tabs or communicate with my children. unless I borrowed a phone. They mapped out my family and contacts so if I were to borrow a phone and try to reach out for help I usually reached spam or foreign hotline or got disconnected.
Then the locals were acting strange. Like sitting outside our house taking photos of us. Items were stolen off our property. When we were out of town. Then the landlord had strange men over pretending to fix things that didn't need to be fixed, installing pipes underground , laying down new soil& having some Wi-Fi farming company working in our yard at 5:00 a.m. I also notice a few times the electric companies employee's were messing with our power boxes, in the middle of the night . Then My my photos came out extremely bright. Almost as if there was someone photoshopping lightning in the background that's how bad it was it gets worse are our family videos look like we lived in a microwave oven.
I know it's very strange! I do have evidence. After I moved out I went to a place that was even closer to my children's father not by choice but because this experience made me semi homeless.
If I would get a new router for that home. my children's father would come over take the phone he had purchased my daughter when he started taking me Superior Court. For a parenting plan we never had! Anyways he demanded her phone said he needed to put some new passwords in it within hours of the router change. When I would purposely break the router his electric company would show up before the internet cable company would. Not surprised to see them across the street fixing the power lines.
I bought our daughter a new phone for when she comes to my new home. He reports to the courts that I stole it from her and won't let her have it back when she never wanted it for he didn't provide data. Every time he's upset he turns around and puts another restraining order on me and our daughter. she gets only 5 gb and ends up with no data within a couple days and has to use Wi-Fi all the time. I did not have Wi-Fi so why not buy her another phone when she's in my new home.
Going a few months back,
Apple finally told me they couldn't help me with the iPhone because it was a government issue. I thought that was hilarious for I didn't do anything wrong unless the person who was using my accounts did. I figured it would pass I mean if you're under an investigation. it would only be for a few months right ? Not two years ! well nothing happened I mean there was no reason for anything to happen. I noticed that the police were driving by the old house a lot. Then I thought maybe it must have been my roommate they might be after. Then why am I the one who lost everything and is dealing with network abuse. My roommate was in a bad guy he did have a bit of a criminal history but nothing considered to be violent maybe just a couple drunken stupid events.
Then during the process of moving my children and roommates out of the house.while driving my car mysteriously blew up because of some electrical issue. Luckily the children were not in the car. There were no warnings & no issues with the car. It took the fire department about two minutes to find me but it was totaled. I could not afford to fix it or have a mechanic look at that time. Then somebody I did not know had it towed and I lost it.
the next house that I temporary was staying at. I was in the router settings I could not seem to get in there very often for the site would never load. I saw it was being port forwarding to a local Bitcoin mining pool!! Before I could screenshot it. I received another server error .
He continues to harass me and threaten me or he knows everything we do in our own privacy, our own bedrooms, where we're going, who we're going with, how much money says he's recording everything. It seems to know everything before I can even share it with a girlfriend.
Now He's throwing everything against me in The family Court and continues to commit perjury while I have proved him wrong multiple times but still aren't getting the protection and respect in this local small town courtroom! I have currently moved to Spokane Washington to get away from this! I do the traveling for the judge says that until I mental health diagnosis hair follicle test I am not allowed to take my daughter from to Spokane Washington. he gave me a month's time and then he says he's going to take all rights away ! Till then he is Requiring me to stay with my children at my parents home. When she is Sun's 18 now. She almost fully grown she is going to be 15 a week. Can't she have a say in who she feels safe enough to live with? that is fine I will do anything for my daughter even though it's pretty unfair that I have to pay for it all myself when they know I have no job or I've been constantly fighting this battle and keeping a phone that will keep a safe connection. when him and his wife both have huge histories of assault and domestic violence and drug charges I have no criminal history no drug history . I need some sort of help so he can't keep destroying every electronics. after calling my daughter when I do get a new phone number I start l receiving spam and scripts over SMS and once I go to my parents more and more viruses are downloaded. Why are we being dragged into this non-stop I want to be able to get a job and move forward not sit here and fight their viruses then more court dates with continuous false claims Non-Stop petti drama!
I've been told multiple times by a few computer companies and files that I have some sort of invisible beacon. How ?
The Seattle times paper has reported that the local electric company and crypto miners are being punished for unauthorized usage of other families in the small town electricity for maximum power leaving us in an unsafe situation to build more cryptocurrency .
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2020.10.28 23:15 u-turnshe Family law IT criminals

Their father recently worked for the local internet company and decided to spy on me. He has admitted it openly. I don't have perfect evidence but enough harassing and threatening text messages stating he knows everything and he doesn't care. He made comments that only you would know if you had read all my emails. I lost a lot of evidence after, I lost the online accounts. I could not seem to share any data from Mobile to computer and it was impossible to connect to any printers. I went to a few stores hoping that I could print off from Dropbox or an email but I realized that their security system was not having it and I was possibly risking their printers.
He later quit the internet company to work for the electric company and a little for Microsoft .
Once he spied on me long enough that he felt he had enough dirt on me. Enough to blackmail me to raise my child support to a unaffordable an unreasonable amount. When I already paid 100% for the children and paid a good amount of child support every month to him when I had them 40% of the time . I could not afford to pay it.
Which then gave him more reasons to be more agressive and threatening towards children and I. His famous lines were, You don't pay you don't see them! So I give him whatever I could afford at that moment on top of everything else. So they could be their mother and grandparents in peace and a moment without fear of their father. He decided to kidnap my younger one during the summer right before I was going to take her on her summer vacation with a girlfriend and brother. I would have always had her that summer month. I knew she was going to be forced to stay in a basement while everybody had fun and even worse he would take the phone from the children even if I purchase and financially supplied it. My children have been going through domestic violence mentally and somewhat physically their entire life.
The day of the trial hearing, I had denial of service attack. Which is where I could not get Wi-Fi nor data on mobile. That I have always paid for.
Which made it so my alarm didn't go off and I was late for trail hearing! The judge said we are going to get a guardian of alliance to see if I go to jail for all the ridiculous untruthful contempt hearings we had for a stretch of 8 months. We never even had a parenting plan. The judge insisted in courts insisted we did.
The GAL said the children would be safe with me if I was more stable. got the children need to spend more time with me which surprised me because she was not nice to me in the beginning she had her mind made up about me but she could see that the children and I were very close. She recommended that the children live with my parents because I removed around too much. I was unsure why she said that but when you search me and do a background check it says online it I have about 7 more addresses than I actually never lived at. She basically stated everything I had been trying to prove to the courts was true! She stated multiple times that our kids were not safe with him and his wife. Why would they go out of their way to hire one if they weren't going to listen to her?
My son , 17 yrs, even went to court and filed for two restraining orders & provided proof of physical abuse and he to was denied. The judge did not seem to feel as if there was any abuse .
I received a call from my children's father right before our trial. I was hoping you wanted to discuss the children. Or even better call his son that he had been neglecting for 6 months. He refused to go back to his house. After he was physical attacked his father and wife. After picking up his phone call I noticed that he wasn't actually on the line and from the receiving end I could hear loud sounds of screeching computers. Similar to a fax machine nose. I that something bad might have happened because I know the type of person he is. I'm sure what to do, I just moved on.
I would like to make this shorter than it needs to be so I don't bore anybody who is still reading thank you.
Shortly after that I lost all my online accounts and had a brute Force attack.
My last pass and keeper did not help me either because I couldn't reach them. Or because they chose not to help me. I did notice the last time I was able to access my password manager that some of my accounts were changed. My passwords had turned into my social security number. Which I would never do! So my identity, and any form of privacy,and all my digital work, art and memories are gone. my whole digital Life. I worked online so I could be closer and home with my children. I truly loved it. So that was the issue for me I lost my online business and all my inventory I had already shipped off to the warehouses.
My son who is in high school lost a lot of his hard work and the Mac, I recently purchased for.
I could not access our router majority of the time. while my internet company, where he used to work decided to lie and not help me and said there's no such thing as a network hack.
I could not use my cellular data or Wi-Fi for 2 months. then it was just periodically sometimes I could connect sometimes I could not to my electronics. I lived in a very large home at the time. Majority of the family and roommates still could use the internet on some of their devices. I was the target the victim of this new attack.
I was panicking trying to reach my customers, the company that I subcontracted for but unfortunately I was redirected to spammers every time!
I ended up having to use all of my financial savings to pay rent and buy more mobile devices a new computer and any type of internet security I could possibly fine in a very small town. I could not buy anything else online I had too many online fraud charges that I was continuously fighting at the time. I could not use the vpns I always would get a server error and the antiviruses somehow were rerouted and I would continuously be locked out.
The new electronics I bought would be compromised and controlled within minutes to a day or two. thanks to the smart technology, Internet of things, and local routers . My family can't even reach out for help. With their hack devices. Some of my family members realized that their computer was compromised and replaced it but still too confused to recognize the problems. Internet services with the same local internet company I did. They are constantly having slow connections being overcharged, and additional charges like voice over IP .
I've purchased at least 10 phones in the last year. My cell phone companies either have no clue or ignored me or treatme as If I was a terrorist, who was just begging to get help controlling my data and my children's baby photos.
I've gone through over a hundred new emails . Since I kept losing access to them. Even though I had the password written down in front of me!! I had DNS poisoning so majority of the websites were outdated with viruses. redirected into a html script. I still can't seem to navigate online at all without getting a server error sometimes I can't even access Court forms. My mobile server which unfortunately is not the server that I paid for. Can't always find Wacourt.gov & washingtonhelp.org
I can't seem to talk to a lawyer that I've been approved for multiple times through the Northwest Justice project. For my mobile phone will consistently hang up. I can't call the non emergency 911. My emails don't go through or usually blocked by lost email services and always somehow blacklisted! The websites I visit seem to be cloned in insecure. My JavaScript would not give me access to majority of the security settings in all my browsers. There's always new extensions and apps and open source licenses for untrustworthy certificates being downloaded especially when I have to go back to that community to see my daughter for the courts have just changed things once again. In the past i cannot turn on or off family sharing when I didn't even have a family connected to that mobile device. Can't turn off USB tethering and Google pay and apple wallets have multiple transactions, not by me. PayPal is somehow connected to a new phone number of mine by an email that's similar to my name but it's not mine. I cannot turn on or off these settings for they are lightened out and unavailable for my electronic device. Sim card & ip always changed.
5000 $ in back child support when the courts knew that I could not afford to pay it and when I tried to fight it they would raise my pay and lower his it was not based off the Washington State child support worksheet. 6000$ in international charges hit my credit report along with new phone numbers, Nick names emails and home addresses. I Cant reach for help with the credit unions like Equifax. When my device have so much static white nose and then lose connection. If I try to connect my email account to a computer. It will say I need a physical key to access it. as if I set it up myself. when every computer I own now Is broke or has locked me out.
I gave up but was sad because I could not keep tabs or communicate with my children. unless I borrowed a phone. They mapped out my family and contacts so if I were to borrow a phone and try to reach out for help I usually reached spam or foreign hotline or got disconnected.
Then the locals were acting strange. Like sitting outside our house taking photos of us. Items were stolen off our property. When we were out of town. Then the landlord had strange men over pretending to fix things that didn't need to be fixed, installing pipes underground , laying down new soil& having some Wi-Fi farming company working in our yard at 5:00 a.m. I also notice a few times the electric companies employee's were messing with our power boxes, in the middle of the night . Then My my photos came out extremely bright. Almost as if there was someone photoshopping lightning in the background that's how bad it was it gets worse are our family videos look like we lived in a microwave oven.
I know it's very strange! I do have evidence. After I moved out I went to a place that was even closer to my children's father not by choice but because this experience made me semi homeless.
If I would get a new router for that home. my children's father would come over take the phone he had purchased my daughter when he started taking me Superior Court. For a parenting plan we never had! Anyways he demanded her phone said he needed to put some new passwords in it within hours of the router change. When I would purposely break the router his electric company would show up before the internet cable company would. Not surprised to see them across the street fixing the power lines.
I bought our daughter a new phone for when she comes to my new home. He reports to the courts that I stole it from her and won't let her have it back when she never wanted it for he didn't provide data. Every time he's upset he turns around and puts another restraining order on me and our daughter. she gets only 5 gb and ends up with no data within a couple days and has to use Wi-Fi all the time. I did not have Wi-Fi so why not buy her another phone when she's in my new home.
Going a few months back,
Apple finally told me they couldn't help me with the iPhone because it was a government issue. I thought that was hilarious for I didn't do anything wrong unless the person who was using my accounts did. I figured it would pass I mean if you're under an investigation. it would only be for a few months right ? Not two years ! well nothing happened I mean there was no reason for anything to happen. I noticed that the police were driving by the old house a lot. Then I thought maybe it must have been my roommate they might be after. Then why am I the one who lost everything and is dealing with network abuse. My roommate was in a bad guy he did have a bit of a criminal history but nothing considered to be violent maybe just a couple drunken stupid events.
Then during the process of moving my children and roommates out of the house.while driving my car mysteriously blew up because of some electrical issue. Luckily the children were not in the car. There were no warnings & no issues with the car. It took the fire department about two minutes to find me but it was totaled. I could not afford to fix it or have a mechanic look at that time. Then somebody I did not know had it towed and I lost it.
the next house that I temporary was staying at. I was in the router settings I could not seem to get in there very often for the site would never load. I saw it was being port forwarding to a local Bitcoin mining pool!! Before I could screenshot it. I received another server error .
He continues to harass me and threaten me or he knows everything we do in our own privacy, our own bedrooms, where we're going, who we're going with, how much money says he's recording everything. It seems to know everything before I can even share it with a girlfriend.
Now He's throwing everything against me in The family Court and continues to commit perjury while I have proved him wrong multiple times but still aren't getting the protection and respect in this local small town courtroom! I have currently moved to Spokane Washington to get away from this! I do the traveling for the judge says that until I mental health diagnosis hair follicle test I am not allowed to take my daughter from to Spokane Washington. he gave me a month's time and then he says he's going to take all rights away ! Till then he is Requiring me to stay with my children at my parents home. When she is Sun's 18 now. She almost fully grown she is going to be 15 a week. Can't she have a say in who she feels safe enough to live with? that is fine I will do anything for my daughter even though it's pretty unfair that I have to pay for it all myself when they know I have no job or I've been constantly fighting this battle and keeping a phone that will keep a safe connection. when him and his wife both have huge histories of assault and domestic violence and drug charges I have no criminal history no drug history . I need some sort of help so he can't keep destroying every electronics. after calling my daughter when I do get a new phone number I start l receiving spam and scripts over SMS and once I go to my parents more and more viruses are downloaded. Why are we being dragged into this non-stop I want to be able to get a job and move forward not sit here and fight their viruses then more court dates with continuous false claims Non-Stop petti drama!
I've been told multiple times by a few computer companies and files that I have some sort of invisible beacon. How ?
The Seattle times paper has reported that the local electric company and crypto miners are being punished for unauthorized usage of other families in the small town electricity for maximum power leaving us in an unsafe situation to build more cryptocurrency .
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2020.10.26 14:30 Clem_Doore Joe Biden has a proven track record

Joe Biden -
  1. Was essential in getting us out of the 2008 recession.
  2. Got the Recovery Act passed and oversaw its implementation, by working with both sides of the aisle and getting votes from both sides.
  3. Help us get the Affordable Care Act Approved, insuring more than 16 MILLION of us and…a. ACA made insurance more affordable for many people.b. ACA prevented children from denying healthcare coverage.c. ACA require insurance companies to disclose how much premium goes to patient care.d. Insurance companies must now spend 80% of premiums on medical care and improvementse. ACA prevented insurance companies from denying coverage for people with preexisting conditions, such as cancer, breast lumps, Downs Syndrome, diabetes, un-diagnosed illnesses.f. No time limits on exist on care. Insurance companies can no longer set a time limit or dollar limit on the amount of coverage. g. Lower prescription cost for Medicare recipients by 50%h. Children can stay on their parent’s insurance until 26 under certain conditionsi. Requires large employers to contribute to a national healthcare plan.
  4. Served 30+ years in the US Senate and belonged to Senate Foreign Relations Committee and Senate Judiciary Committee.
  5. As part of the Senate and House, he passed 167 pieces of legislation.
  6. Help pass the Fair Sentencing Act (lowering the amount of people in jail for small quantities of drugs)
  7. Helped write/pass/supported the First Step Act. (Cut unnecessary long federal sentences, making the federal justice system fairer, and more focuses on rehabilitation.
  8. Helped write/pass/supported the Consumer Product Safety Commission Bill (2008) - enhances consumer protection for all Americans, especially the poor.
  9. Helped write/pass/supported Low-Income Home Energy Assistance Funding (2008) - Assists all low-income Americans with energy costs.
  10. Helped write/pass/supported Funding to Combat AIDS, Malaria, and Tuberculosis (2008) -
  11. Helped write/pass/supported Housing Foreclosure Assistance Programs (2008) - See foreclosures by race and ethnicity.
  12. Helped create US policy toward Iraq through the withdrawal of troops in 2011.
  13. Helped write/pass/supported the Violence against Women Act.
  14. Helped write/pass/supported Federal Rape Shield Law (Date Rape)
  15. Helped write/pass/supported The Family and Medical Leave Act
  16. Helped write/pass/supported Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals.
  17. Helped write/pass/supported The National Voter Registration Act
  18. Helped write/pass/supported The Department of Education Organization Act
  19. Helped write/pass/supported The Department of Energy Organization Act
  20. Helped write/pass/supported The Lily Ledbetter Fair Pay Act
  21. Helped write/pass/supported US Budget Control Act of 2011
  22. Helped write/pass/supported the Job Act, the Taxpayer Relief Act of 2012
  23. Introduced one of the first climate change bills in 1986.
  24. Helped with legal aid for survivors of domestic violence (some was pro-bono)
  25. Funding for victim assistance services, like rape crisis centers and hotlines.
  26. Programs and services for victims with disabilities. (disability plan)
  27. Protections for victims who are evicted from their homes because of events related to domestic violence or stalking.
  28. Community violence prevention programs.
  29. Work to passing The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, historic legislation expanding hate crimes law to include crimes based on one’s actual or perceived gender, sexual orientation, gender identity, or disability
  30. Repealing Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. Steered the Obama-Biden Administration’s repeal of the discriminatory policy to allow gay, lesbian, and bisexual members of the armed services
  31. Championing LGBTQ Protections in the 2013 Violence Against Women Act Re-Authorization Championed equality and inclusion for LGBTQ+ youth
  32. Defending Equal Benefits to Same-Sex Couples
  33. Voted against constitutional amendment defining marriage as between one man and one woman
  34. Original co-sponsor of “Employment Non-Discrimination Act” prohibiting bias and discrimination based on sexual orientation in employment
  35. Launched First Comprehensive National HIV/AIDS Strategy
  36. Early Support for HIV/AIDS Resources. Biden has long fought for access to treatment for people with HIV/AIDS. Dating back to 1987, he voted to authorize critical funding for medication that prolonged life for people with AIDS
  37. Cosponsored the Ryan White Comprehensive AIDS Resources Emergency (CARE) Act, providing life-saving treatment and care to low-income, poor, and uninsured people living with HIV
  38. Sponsored reauthorization of the Global AIDS program (PEPFAR), which significantly expanded the funding and targets for treatment, care, and prevention of HIV/AIDS and repealed statutory ban on visas for people who were HIV-positive
  39. Worked with Obama to institute the toughest Wall Street reform since Great Depression
  40. Endorsed and made same sex marriage a reality.
  41. Biden received the Presidential Medal of Honor.
  42. Biden received the Congressional Patriot Award from the Bipartisan Policy Center. He receives the honor in recognition of his work crafting bipartisan legislation with Republicans and Democrats.
  43. Expanded state run health insurance to cover additional four million kids
  44. Has condemned white supremacy groups.
  45. Has condemned Antifa and all violence, including those related to riots. Does not support the extremist group, “The Proud Boys”.
  46. Has paid income taxes and does not avoid them, which support our Military, Social Security, Medicare, paying off the national debt…
  47. Is supported by the International Firefighters Union. He passed legislation positively effecting firefighters’ pensions, healthcare, and bargaining rights. He supported line-of-duty benefits for families of firefighter killed on duty.
  48. He co-wrote the PSOB, Public Safety Officers Benefit, a one-time, $250,000 lump sum federal payout to the families of law enforcement officers, firefighters, public safety officers killed or disabled in the line of duty. Biden introduced the benefit, which used to be $50,000.
  49. Biden has won the support and is being endorsed by the United Steel Workers union, Teamsters union, the United Auto Workers, the United Food and Commercial Workers union, the American Federation of State, County and Municipal Employees, the National Education Association and the American Federation of Teachers, Nurse Unions, and the Service Employees International Union.
  50. Did a better job managing the SARS / Bird Flu than Trump did with Covid-19. 14,000 SARS deaths compared to 215,000 Coronavirus deaths.
  51. Obama / Biden final three years more jobs were created, a million and a half more jobs, than in the first three years of the Trump presidency. Chris Wallace Fox New Presidential Debate.
  52. When Ghislane Maxwell, the Jeffrey Epstein associate was arrested for charges related to the sexual abuse of young girls, Trump said “I wish her well”. He should have said that 'I hope she helps brings rapists and criminals to justice'.
  53. Doesn’t spend all day sending mean tweets to people on Twitter.
  54. Biden’s campaign does not include Russian interference. Trump knew the Russians interfered with the 2016 campaign and did nothing.
  55. Biden did not approve devastating an oil pipeline through Native Lands.
  56. Biden does not want oil digging off the coast of Florida.
  57. Biden does not call far right protestors “very fine people”
  58. Biden did not impose a “Muslim” travel ban.
  59. Biden has released his tax returns. Donald said in 2016 he would, and he has not.
  60. Biden did not doubled his resort hotel fees when staying at his hotels.
  61. Biden would do a much better job providing assistance to States and Puerto Rico after a Hurricane or other disaster.
  62. Biden has not revealed classified information to a Russian Ambassador.
  63. Biden did not refer to Haiti and El Salvador as “shithole countries”
  64. Biden was not involved in the longest government shutdown in US History.
Please note, I take no credit for this list. It is a collection and info from many redditors and other sources.
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2020.09.12 15:52 ALiddleBiddle Human trafficking exploits vulnerable populations

Human trafficking exploits vulnerable populations
Human trafficking exploits vulnerable populations
Posted on September 11, 2020 by Leslie Boyd
Link to article
Angela Bradley was 10 the first time she was paid to have sex.

LINE IN THE SAND: At last year's Anti-Trafficking Summit, held at Mars Hill University, participants explored the Red Sand Project, a collaborative installation which creates \"opportunities for people to question, connect and take action against vulnerabilities that can lead to human trafficking and exploitation,\" according to the project’s website. Photo by Jennifer Wilson
A neighbor who was a gang member introduced her and became her “manager,” and when he paid her $100 after the act, she thought it was an incredibly easy way to make money.
“I had already been molested by an older man who gave me candy and presents, so this was nothing new, really,” says Bradley, who today works for Legacy of Hope International, a South Carolina-based nonprofit. The group is organizing the second annual Anti-Trafficking Summit, slated for Tuesday-Saturday, Sept. 15-19. Co-sponsored by Mars Hill University and Life 107 Ministries, this year’s summit will be online only due to COVID-19.
Bradley’s mother had a psychiatric illness and was addicted, so the young girl had no strong advocate at home. “I was trying to look older, and they wanted me to look younger,” she recalls. “And when they gave me $100, I thought it was great.”
But by age 17, she was pregnant and in jail.
“I gave birth to my daughter with one hand cuffed to the bed and one leg shackled to the bed,” she says. “That’s the moment I knew I had to turn my life around. It was a survival thing.”

A complex picture

Trafficking takes many forms. According to a U.S. Department of Health and Human Services [fact sheet](http://(https//www.acf.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/orfact_sheet_child_victims_of_human_trafficking.pdf), it can include not only sex for money involving coercion or fraud but also any kind of involuntary servitude. And while most folks associate trafficking with children, two-thirds of the more than 200 North Carolina cases reported to the National Human Trafficking Hotline last year were adults. Still, the average age of children when they’re first trafficked is 15, says Bradley. According to the hotline, about 80% of trafficking cases nationally involve sex trafficking, and 90% of the victims are female.
Although trafficking can happen to anyone, certain groups are more vulnerable: people who’ve recently migrated or moved; those with substance use issues and/or mental illness; those who’ve been in the child welfare system; someone who’s LGBTQ, a runaway or a homeless youth.
Perpetrators also come from every race, ethnicity, and gender demographic, the hotline reports. They may be business owners, members of a gang or network, parents or family members of victims, intimate partners — even corporate executives and government representatives. Some leverage their privilege, wealth, and position to control their victims.
In a high-profile 2019 case, financier Jeffrey Epstein allegedly procured girls for himself and his powerful friends. Epstein, a registered sex offender, died in custody while awaiting trial. Other perpetrators, however, come from more modest backgrounds.

The second annual Anti-Trafficking Summit

The free online event is scheduled for Tuesday, Sept. 15; Thursday, Sept. 17; and Saturday, Sept. 19. The suggested donation for training is $10, and tickets are available online.
Traffickers use various tactics to control their victims, including physical and emotional abuse and threats, isolation from friends and family, and economic manipulation. Initially, they often promise to address their target’s needs; victims then become afraid to leave for reasons including psychological trauma, shame, emotional attachment or physical threats to themselves or their loved ones.

Sugar dating

Asheville resident Jennifer Wilson, who’s organizing the upcoming summit, works for Legacy of Hope International. “With COVID-19 and what it’s doing to the economy, even more people are becoming desperate,” she points out. “Sex can be used as an exchange for necessities like rent and food, not just drugs.”
Amid widespread pandemicrelated unemployment and the impending end of federal, state, and local protections, some economists are predicting 30 million to 40 million evictions in the coming months.
All these factors increase the risk of being trafficked, says Demetria Gilliam-Williams of Life 107. The faith-based organization works to eliminate sex trafficking and empower survivors. “We have to talk about familial trafficking right here in rural North Carolina,” she says. “These children are not being kidnapped; that’s not what it looks like here.”
Traffickers, she explains, approach their targets the same way a child molester does — first grooming them by offering forbidden items such as alcohol or small amounts of money and telling them to keep the “gifts” secret. But when those “treats” become the payment for sexual acts with someone under age 18, the law calls it trafficking.
Even a teenager dating an older partner may be at risk, says Gilliam-Williams. “It’s called sugar dating,” she explains. “If a young girl is dating an older male, and he asks her to perform a sex act with him or with someone else in exchange for gifts or money, that’s trafficking. Unfortunately, too many victims are very attached to their traffickers.”

Blaming the victim

Many victims aren’t even aware they’re being trafficked, says Angelica Reza Wind of Our VOICE. “They’ll call and say someone is making them do things,” she explains. “They may not even know there’s a name for it, and they’re unaware there are resources to help them.” The Asheville nonprofit works to eliminate sexual violence.
Despite the widespread belief that kidnapping must be involved for the law to consider it trafficking, that’s not true, stresses Wind. Any exchange of anything of value for sex with a minor, and any use of force, fraud or coercion in the case of an adult, is trafficking. Like Bradley, most people who are trafficked knew the perpetrator beforehand, and 80% are survivors of child abuse.

Getting help

If you’re being trafficked or know someone who is, call the National Human Trafficking Hotline at 888-373-7888, text 233733 or visit humantraffickinghotline.org.
To reach Our VOICE, call the 24-hour crisis line (828-255-7576) or visit ourvoicenc.org.
Wind believes part of the reason people think most trafficking victims are abducted and spirited across the border is that the #SaveTheChildren hashtag has been appropriated by anti-immigration activists on the political right.
Another major problem, she notes, is blaming the victim instead of the perpetrator. “When we read the story, it too often says that Jane Doe was trafficked, not that John Smith was charged with trafficking,” Wind points out. “We ask why didn’t she leave, report him sooner, avoid being trafficked.”

Legal protections

In July 2019, Gov. Roy Cooper signed a law based on recommendations by the state’s Human Trafficking Commission. Among other things, it expands the definition of “sexual servitude,” prohibits the promotion or sale of “sex tourism” services, creates a mechanism for victims to recover damages from traffickers or those who benefited financially from it, and makes it easier for victims to expunge convictions for nonviolent crimes committed as a direct result of being trafficked.
The law also funds education, says Wind. In October, Our VOICE will launch a project in the Asheville City Schools to help youths understand what trafficking is and how to avoid getting caught up in it.
“Education is key,” says Wind. “Having information helps prevent trafficking.”
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2020.09.07 22:16 gothmommy13 In a domestic violence shelter but frustrated because they seem to pick and choose who to help and who they won't.

I've been here for about 6 weeks which is the time frame they give you to get yourself together before your exit date. I've asked about an extension a couple of times and was told that it should be ok but that I need to be thinking about a job and apartment. I've been so busy with other stuff they've made me do I haven't had time. I also already work so it's like my advocate isn't paying attention. It's ultimately up to the director whether I get the extension or not and I have proof of what I've been doing but it's like they don't care.
I went and got the restraining order that they forced me to get which has now left me without the option of being able to go back to my ex's house if I had to for obvious reasons. I'm on a waiting list for housing since I'm low income and my son is on the waiting list for daycare and tbh I'm a little pissed because my advocate said they have a notary and she was gone the week that I had to get the restraining order then the next week she didn't have her stamp with her. I had to pay out of pocket for cabs to get back and forth and to pay to have the documents for the restraining order notorized after my advocate told me she would tell the people in the hotline room to approve it. They've always told me they can't. I also apparently qualify for relocation money but apparently your advocate is supposed to file for that and hasn't.
I just feel like what was the point of me even coming here if they're just going to kick me out without giving me enough time even though they know some things have slowed down and even stopped due to Covid?! Yet there's some people here who have been here for 8 months or longer who do nothing but sit around all day doing nothing and don't even watch their kids. What am I supposed to do? I can't be on the streets with a baby! They should know as a domestic violence shelter that some people like me are starting completely over and 6 weeks isn't enough time. I feel like they could be better trained. No compassion whatsoever. I've told them some shelters aren't even taking in due to Covid which is the truth. Again, they don't care then they wonder why some victims return to their abusers.
I'm just really fed up because I'm not made of money and they know this. Also, they should know that a lot of victims come in with literally no money and no job because financial abuse is pretty common in abusive relationships. I just don't see how they think 6 weeks should be enough time especially in a pandemic. That's why I say it seems like they pick and choose who to help and who they basically tell we don't care, your time is up, get out.
I'm a good resident. I don't cause trouble and I stay to myself. I've even shown my advocate proof that I'm working on bettering my situation and they're still acting like they want me out this week! I just don't see how they can show favoritism. I'm terrified of what will happen to me. I'll be forced to bring my son back to his father's house, also my abuser, because he lives with his parents. I'm not going to walk the streets with a baby. I'm just really pissed right now because I could see if I was sitting around on my ass not trying to get anything done but I've been running around like a chicken with its head cut off trying to get things done. This isn't right.
Edit: I got an extension and I have an appointment Monday to do an intake for rapid rehousing. It's good but I still feel like the original post is accurate. It seems like if things don't happen in their time frame, they treat you like you're not doing anything. I resented how they were like well you should've had all this done by now and acted like I was being lazy because it wasn't done when they wanted it to be. Having a child makes things harder and take longer and they should realize this.
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2020.09.01 03:26 qerio Never had this problem before

So, obligatory this is an alt account (don’t see my most active subs lol).
I (m, 16) am currently dating a gal, let’s just say her name’s Kate (f, 17). She’s in the grade above me and we’re a relatively new relationship.
About 7 months ago (just before the shutdowns) I met a girl in a town forty minutes from home while visiting a friend. Her name’s, uh, Becca, (f, 15).
Becca and I really hit it off and we fell in love. We’d text every night over snap and eventually she and I said the L word. This is wayyyyy before I met Kate.
Now Becca, I discovered, was struggling with mild depression and she had suicidal tendencies. After a bit of convincing, she finally went to a counselor and said she was getting better (keep this in mind)
Fast forward 6 months and me and Becca fell of because 40 minutes is a long drive to make often. I met Kate, and we hit it off much more extremely than me and Becca. Of course I had still talked to her, and still sort of loved her, but definitely not in the same way. I wasn’t going to abandon her, but I’m not gonna sacrifice my happiness to help her pretend to be happy.
Now, come to yesterday. I get a text from Becca about an hour before I meet up with Kate for a date. Becca told me all these things about how she had stopped going to the counselor, how she pretended to be happy, how her step dad got arrested for domestic violence (he was a pos), and how her mom was treating her like, well, shit.
I tried to tell her everything I could; the suicide hotline number (her past history and current erratic behavior warranted it) and told her that everything would be alright. Then she asked if I still loved her, which was NOT the question I expected. I told the truth, that I loved her in a different way now and that I was in a relationship that I was happy with. She apologized profusely, then abruptly ended the convo.
Fast forward to about 45 minutes ago. I text her if she was ok, to double check. She responded with 3, very confusing lines. I want to be with you. I really want to. I miss you.
I told her the same thing I did yesterday, then told her that we could talk later tonight over ft. Me and Kate talked about it, and although she doesn’t fully understand why I am talking to her, she’s chill with it.
What do I do
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2020.08.31 21:18 Major_Yogurtcloset91 I (30M) tried to break up with my (31F) girlfriend too soon and now I'm spiraling

(TL;DR at bottom)

Apologies for the scattershot and unorganized presentation of all this. I've been in a relationship with Marie since the start of 2019. We knew eachother in high school, had alcohol fueled flings in our early 20s, and decided to actually date after years and years of drama and toxicity.

Since then, we've both lost our friend groups, have dealt with multiple depressive episodes and have had many communication snafus that have resulted in major blow-ups.

I don't know if I have incredibly poor communication skills, but even at my most delicate I don't know how to tell her anything I perceive as negative about her. Everything is immediately disagreed with. She feels she doesn't deserve it. She doesn't like how it's presented to her. I'm just presuming and projecting. "Don't put that on me," is a favored defense. I'm cut off from finishing pretty much every sentence. When I point out she thinks I'm always wrong, she says and I quote, "It's not that you're always wrong, it's just that I think I'm always right."

I've had panic attacks during our fights. I've been shouted at and deemed an abuser and gaslighter. What else can I say to this? Once those labels are applied, that's the case. I don't know how to stand up for myself during all this. I have to think even the most gracious of partners would have issues with this. As a result of these defense historically and consistently being the case, I have settled into keeping my mouth shut. This now makes me closed off and unable to communicate.

This past weekend, we had a huge fight in public in front of a children's group of runners and a holy cemetary. I told her I wanted to break-up and was moving out this week. It was a process I started in my head a few weeks ago, and hoped that once I had a job and a car I'd be able to make my way out, but I felt weak in that moment and just said it there anyway.

Her way of processing this was to verbally demean me ("You're a fucking mess!"), got into my face, and shouted "HIT ME HIT ME" over and over again. You only have my word for this, but I never at any point escalated, threatened her, or entered her space. That was on her. She is white. I am Asian. While I understand this is not the worst that situation could be, it looks really really bad.

I tried to keep my cool for a majority of this, but at some point I gave in to my anger and starting mocking her (yelling fuck you while she was, she threw a water bottle on the ground so I took it and did the same) and I ran a bit away and shouted "You try having a conversation with yourself!")

I checked into a hotel that day so I could get some space. It was the first time in ages that I felt truly, truly alone. I have no support system, no close friends or family. Any community I used to have, I think this relationship killed off. I had an empty calorie conversation with the National Suicide Hotline (he was very positive and offered resources, just not what I needed). I had a brief conversation with my therapist, which was good and provided context, but fleeting. I desperately just needed an anchor, a rock. HBO ran a Curb Your Enthusiasm marathon so I settled for that.

I went back home the next day. We talked, she apologized, and for the sake of our relatively stable living status quo, I took her back. I told her all was forgiven, that I still love her, that I'll work on myself.

Currently, we live in a friend's house for absolutely no charge. We have our own room and space, pretty much entirely furnished and sustained by her. She's working full-time at an awful job with an awful commute and going to school online. I'm unemployed, no car (yet), and will start school at the end of the month. So there's that dynamic for you to take as you will.

Honestly, I'm running on survival mode and I just want to preserve the sanctity of our living situation. There's a pandemic, unemployment is at an all time high, I'm trying to be practical.

Before I made this throwaway, I was reminded of the fight on Saturday and I just got so angry. My heart rate increased, I couldn't focus on anything. All I could do was pace and live in my anger. A long time ago I found a disorder that sounded like this but now I've totally forgotten (gf dismissed it and said it didn't apply to me). This sensation is not uncommon for me but it was something I was actively working on. The fight on Saturday is going to trigger me for the time being.

Again, Reddit, I'm a straight cis male. All you have is my version of things. My therapist (also straight cis male) always has to remind me that I'm not on trial during our sessions.

Have any of you been a situation like this? Were you able to hang on to your sense of self and make it out okay?

TL;DR: Defensive gf blew up at me in public when I tried to break up with her, took her back to keep living situation because 2020 and want to have shelter. Triggered by gf getting into my face and trying to entice violence.
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2020.08.30 23:04 thecambridgegeek Audio Drama/Fiction/RPG Debuts - August 2020

I've got what I think is a mostly exhaustive list of the new audio drama series that came out in August, which may be of interest to those looking for new shows. See below. Anyone want to tell me any I've missed, and I'll update it? (Note, "new" here means that the Ep1 of the RSS feed was released, or a previously non-fiction feed started producing fiction.) Listened to any of them that you would recommend?
Previous months are available here:
https://www.thecambridgegeek.com/results.php?proof=Releases&tag1=Audio%20fiction
And the ongoing updates (just in case you don't want to wait for the end of the month) are available here:
https://twitter.com/AudioDramaDebut
And I do a weekly podcast collecting a few trailers here:
https://www.thecambridgegeek.com/archive/add/add.php

8/1: Fireside Folktales (Dramatised - Fantasy)
Site: https://firesidefolktale.wixsite.com/site
Synopsis: Fireside Folktales is a collaborative show that takes myths and legends from around the world and breathes life back into them, transforming them into single-season audio fiction performances. Each story is created by a different writer. Do you have a story that you want to tell? Get in touch with us! We’re looking for stories from all over the world, especially myths from regions such as Africa, South Asia, Scandinavia, Russia, South America, and more! Fireside Folktales is here to help you tell your story, and to make mythology queer again.
RSS Feed: https://pinecast.com/feed/fireside-folktales

8/1: Glass Letters (Fiction - Fantasy)
Site: https://anchor.fm/glassletterspod
Synopsis: Glass Letters is a limited series audio fiction story about loneliness, connection, and letters in bottles. Brought to you from an island in the middle of nowhere, and created by Anna Godfrey.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/2baae9f4/podcast/rss

8/1: New Light Radio Dramas (Dramatised - Anthology)
Site: https://anchor.fm/new-light-theater-project
Synopsis: With the shutdown of live audience events, New Light Theater Project has decided to produce our very own Radio Dramas -- storytelling that utilizes dialogue, music, and sound effects to imagine characters and story.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/2ed2c1c4/podcast/rss

8/1: The Embers of Eden (Dramatised - Science fiction)
Site: https://embersofedenaudiodrama.podbean.com
Synopsis: Rival officers Sumner and Hewitt have found themselves trapped inside the mysterious ship which destroyed their own. Finding the truth about its origin may be just as important as staying alive. They'll have to set aside their personal conflict to withstand alien attacks, killer drones, the vacuum of space, and creatures which defy nature. Is the priority to escape or thwart a new danger to all human worlds? What secrets still burn like embers? Each episode of this science fiction adventure switches between the perspectives of Hewitt and Sumner as they fight for survival and answers.
RSS Feed: https://feed.podbean.com/embersofedenaudiodrama/feed.xml

8/2: B-Roll (RPG - Fanfiction)
Site: https://anchor.fm/b-roll-podcast
Synopsis: B-Roll is named as a pun for its ancillary nature to B Cubed (https://anchor.fm/b-cubed), similarly named for the hosts' last names starting with B, and for the fact that it's an actual play D&D podcast. You know, like, rolling dice.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/2cd65458/podcast/rss

8/2: Merryweather (Dramatised - Thriller)
Site: https://merryweather.buzzsprout.com/
Synopsis: Betty is a journalist who gets an interview with a man who murdered 21 people in a mass shooting. He claims that Merryweather, the international candy manufacturer made him do it. Betty starts to realize that there could be more to his claims than she originally thought. From then on she is entangled in a very dangerous conspiracy where she is forced to question who the true monsters among us are.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/1256204.rss

8/2: No Small Rolls (RPG - Fantasy)
Site: https://shows.acast.com/nosmallrolls
Synopsis: Join our merry band of actors for a D&D campaign where there are ‘No Small Rolls’, just battles, buddies and beverages! Dungeon Master David Knight ushers his players Ben Galpin, Chris Watts, Darrel Bailey, Grace Kelly Miller and Vicky Gaskin through a home-brewed world full of stories, secrets and silliness. Episodes are all underscored with epic original music by David Knight.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/nosmallrolls

8/2: The Pink Nightmares (Dramatised - Anthology)
Site: https://redcircle.com/shows/the-pink-nightmares
Synopsis: Anthology series of audible nightmares. Fictional short stories. Very real scenarios.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.redcircle.com/44156405-f015-4eee-ae0b-4f54ef84b062

8/2: Voyage of the August (Dramatised - Historical)
Site: https://voyage-of-the-august-0cbf160a.simplecast.com
Synopsis: A tale of queer love and mutiny on the high seas! The Voyage of the August chronicles the final voyage of a merchant ship bound for England in 1717, whose crew takes their fate into their own hands. This work of historical fiction is presented as a serial radio drama, to be released in nine weekly installments.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.simplecast.com/e5oqyamq

8/3: Forever and a Day (Dramatised - Soap opera)
Site: http://www.faadseries.com/
Synopsis: Forever And A Day follows the trials and tribulations of the Harper, Bennett, and Marshall families, as they face life’s complexities head-on in the fictional town of Augustus, Illinois. The Harpers and Bennetts are butting heads, as the gubernatorial race in Illinois heats up; and brings with it multiple twists and turns that could end up destroying both families! Meanwhile, the Marshalls face new challenges, as they try to continue their almost outdated formula of how to run their long-standing magazine, The Magnifier. Forever And A Day is about the bonds of humanity and the psychology of modern day, socially relevant topics, that are seen through the many fictional citizens of a bustling, midwest city.
RSS Feed: https://www.spreaker.com/show/4410364/episodes/feed

8/3: Pulp Fury Radio (Dramatised - Anthology)
Site: https://pulpfuryradio.podbean.com/
Synopsis: Audio plays for a new age. Pulp Fury Radio is a podcast anthology series featuring a range of genres such as Sci-fi, Noir, Mystery & Fantasy. Giving our audience something new, by bringing back something old.
RSS Feed: https://feed.podbean.com/pulpfuryradio/feed.xml

8/3: The Patron Saint of Suicides (Dramatised - Crime/Mystery)
Site: https://www.suicidesaints.com/
Synopsis: Haven Otomo spends her spare time saving people from jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge. She also owns a private suicide hotline. Possessed with unnatural powers of persuasion, she’s always been good at talking people in and out of things. When a rash of suicides hits the city, a detective reaches out for her help on the investigation, and her insight into why people kill themselves. When the crime becomes more complicated, she must question the people she trusts most, and whether they are involved.
RSS Feed: https://suicidesaints.libsyn.com/rss

8/3: The Shadow of the Hook (Fiction - Fantasy)
Site: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1253579/
Synopsis: Wolfgang Wimmers reads The Shadow of the Hook - a fantasy novel for children 8+ and for those few adults that haven't forgotten that magic (and mayhem) truly exist... in the hidden. A most daring adventure; join Oskar and his sister, Rosa as they help two new friends - Ash (a broken-winged fairy) and Quilby (a young gnomeling wizard) escape from their pursuer, the Grobble - a crazed and vicious troll with only one thing on his mind... to make fairy and gnomeling stew!! May contain scary elements, heroic bravery and traces of nuts.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/1253579.rss

8/3: The Theatron Project (Dramatised - Anthology)
Site: https://www.theatronproject.com/
Synopsis: A new type of performing arts podcast focused on creativity, community, and content. We provide various programming from new adaptations, revamped older plays, new work, experiments, drunken shenanigans, and more!
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/271c9324/podcast/rss

8/3: The Vanishing Act (Dramatised - Historical)
Site: https://vanishingpod.com/
Synopsis: The Vanishing Act is globetrotting farce about a German magic enthusiast, an American conman in Paris, an unfortunately-named engineer, a disappearing French magician, and a duck. A Rambling Absurdity in 12(ish) Parts.
RSS Feed: https://feed.podbean.com/vanishingpod/feed.xml

8/4: Heavy Metal Presents: WonderWerk (Fiction - Anthology)
Site: https://www.heavymetal.com/wonderwerk/
Synopsis: Heavy Metal Magazine’s Graphic Audio Podcast, features immersive sound design & Hollywood quality production in all new mind-bending stories set in the thrilling worlds of Science Fiction, Fantasy & Horror.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.megaphone.fm/wonderwerk

8/4: The Quarantine Plays (Dramatised - Anthology)
Site: https://themerrybeggars.com/radio
Synopsis: When Coronavirus hit the United States, The Merry Beggars launched a contest for 10-minute radio plays responding to the theme of "quarantine." We received over 120 submissions from playwrights around the world. While we can't produce all of them, we've chosen twelve original scripts to bring to you.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/1095722.rss

8/4: The Streets of Avalon: The Bleak Testament (RPG - Fantasy)
Site: https://anchor.fm/whatdoiknowj
Synopsis: An actual play podcast following a group of protagonists that they try to survive in The Isles, a poor and neglected neighborhood in the fantasy city of Avalon. Cultists, guilds, criminals, and monsters hide around the corners, but the most dangerous thing lurking in the shadows might just be the secrets. A D&D 5e actual play using The Streets of Avalon campaign setting from Brett Bloczynski and Encoded Designs. Starring Robert Everson, Eric Bonz, John Arcadian, Brandon Barnes, and Eileen Barnes, with Jared Rascher as the game facilitator.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/2f63d4d4/podcast/rss

8/7: Gallivanting Goblins (Dramatised - Fantasy)
Site: https://anchor.fm/alexandra-ricou/
Synopsis: In the small town of Frome, Somerset at the end of the 19th Century, a young girl called Flora embarks on an unexpected adventure through fairy land. Written by Alexandra Ricou with music and lyrics by Danielle Sharp, in collaboration with Beth Fiducia-Brookes. Gallivanting Goblins was conceived as part of Wassail Theatre Company's Connecting Communities project in response to the COVID-19 pandemic of 2020. Gallivanting Goblins was originally recorded in August 2020.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/2fb617d0/podcast/rss

8/7: RPGs Like To Party (RPG - Anthology)
Site: https://rpgsliketoparty.wixsite.com/podcast
Synopsis: Friends coming together to play TTRPGs via Discord and Roll20. Call of Cthulhu, World of Darkness, Pathfinder, Dungeons and Dragons, Mutants and Masterminds and more.
RSS Feed: https://www.spreaker.com/show/1305853/episodes/feed

8/8: The Lost Adventurers (RPG - Fantasy)
Site: https://anchor.fm/the-lost-adventurers
Synopsis: Four guys playing D&D together to tell a cool story.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/302d0840/podcast/rss

8/9: Porcelain Theatre Co. (Dramatised - Anthology)
Site: https://soundcloud.com/porcelain-theatre
Synopsis: Porcelain Theatre was founded by A.E Quinn and Diarmuid O'Dwyer to create theatre that focuses on giving representation to the marginalised sections of our community. Our pieces often focus on tabooed subject matter. Giving voices to those who are often overlooked.

8/10: Anyway, What Else? (Dramatised - Slice of life)
Site: https://journify.co/podcast-anyway-what-else
Synopsis: Anyway, What Else? listens in on the lives of four millennials who are approaching breaking point. They have never met, yet they share so much in common. Like reading a diary over the author’s shoulder, these audio journals reveal their confessions, anxieties, loves and losses. Is Jess a date-aholic or just serious about love? Is Lucia a star teacher, or does she give too much? Is Jamie pushing away his boyfriend in the pursuit of an unachievable dream? Is Sandy about to explode? Anyway, What Else will have you laughing, cringing and crying.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/3068376c/podcast/rss

8/10: In Another Room (Dramatised - Horror)
Site: https://www.violethourmedia.com/in-another-room
Synopsis: The Violet Hour presents - IN ANOTHER ROOM. Adapted from E3W Production's ground-breaking, LA-based immersive show of the same name, IN ANOTHER ROOM is a collection of interlocking ghost stories, each one taking place in a different room of a notoriously haunted house. These ghost stories span the entire history of the mysterious home—from its troubled construction in the 1870s to today—and recount the tragedies of the various souls that have lived, and died, within.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.megaphone.fm/inanotherroom

8/10: Keystone Horror Podcast (Fiction - Horror)
Site: https://www.keystonehorror.com/
Synopsis: The Keystone Horror Podcast is dedicated to telling original stories of strange and unusual events, not gore heavy descriptions or content written just to gross you out. Each story is a standalone experience that does not require you to listen to previous or future episodes. Every episode is based in Pennsylvania, pulling from local legends, historical events, and personal experience.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/1145786.rss

8/10: Nowhere, On Air (Dramatised - Urban fantasy)
Site: https://nowhereonairpodcast.weebly.com/
Synopsis: Semi-late night community radio broadcasts from a strange little town in the Crowsnest Pass, Alberta (aka, not just the middle of nowhere, but nowhere itself). Nothing ever happens here. Certainly nothing weird. Why would you even suggest that? If you like mysteries, conspiracies, the absurd, Canadians, and what is probably the podcast equivalent of a "b" movie, Braedon, Alberta might be the place for you! New episode every 10th and 21st. Listen close. Don't wander off. It's a long way to get where you're going. Especially out here.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/1256909.rss

8/10: Shelf Lives (Dramatised - Slice of life)
Site: https://shows.acast.com/shelf-lives
Synopsis: Shelf Lives is a series of short, original audio plays exploring the fictional lives of the different people we all knew and loved during lockdown, in the one social setting we grew used to for many, many months: the supermarket. Each episode follows a different character in the same shop, on the same day, at exactly the same time, as they get to grips with both private crises and one very public pandemic. These are short, sharp ten minute insights into people’s lives - plays in podcast form.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/shelf-lives

8/10: Tales from the Rusty Speeder (RPG - Fanfiction)
Site: https://anchor.fm/rustyspeeder
Synopsis: An interactive Actual Play podcast using Fantasy Flight Game's Star Wars: Edge of the Empire rule set.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/2d82f294/podcast/rss

8/11: Donald August Versus the Land of Flowers (Dramatised - Comedy)
Site: https://donaldaugustpod.carrd.co/
Synopsis: Donald August Versus the Land of Flowers is a 5-episode fiction comedy podcast. A boy and his summer nanny set out to play detective in South Florida and instead stumble into a supernatural – and sinister – palm plant. The show follows Donnie, a 12-year-old obsessed with playing private investigator, and his reluctant, teenage summer nanny Lex. You'll also hear from Donnie's retired uncle, the future third female president of the United States of America, and a librarian who didn't ask for any of this.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/1257881.rss

8/12: Plot Hooks Adventures (RPG - Fantasy)
Site: http://plothooks.buzzsprout.com/
Synopsis: Plot Hooks is a podcast focused on the arts of narrative and collaborative storytelling in the world's premier roleplaying game, Dungeons & Dragons. (A discussion show that started doing an actual play.)
RSS Feed: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/757187.rss

8/12: Power Out (Dramatised - Thriller)
Site: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p08bxh3s/episodes/downloads
Synopsis: What happens when the power system we’re hooked up to fails? A new thriller about power and protest on a dying planet. Starring Vinnie Heaven and written by Sarah Woods.
RSS Feed: https://podcasts.files.bbci.co.uk/p08bxh3s.rss

8/12: Shark-Man the Podcast (Dramatised - Comedy)
Site: https://anchor.fm/shark-man-podcast
Synopsis: IMPORTANT! Start this story from Episode 1. Shark-Man is a 9 part series. It tells the story of Dewey Dorsalfine and his journey into shark magic and discovering his true shark nature on the Oregon Coast. This is a whimsical fantasy story meant for the whole family. It involves silly language and magical thinking.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/fc1fa0c/podcast/rss

8/13: The Art of Ambition (Fiction - Crime/Mystery)
Site: https://www.raggedfoils.co.uk/artofambition/
Synopsis: In the city that never sleeps, the next opportunity is right around the corner... The Art of Ambition is a modern noir-esque series told from the perspective of a New Yorker with his ear to the ground and a knack for turning a situation to his advantage. Written by Mark L. Burrow, starring Joshua Manning, directed and edited by Thomas Mitchells, theme tune by Barrie Bignold. The Art of Ambition was expanded from a monologue - The Art of a Doorman - originally produced by Natalie Winter for Ragged Foils’ Ragged Scratch Podcast.
RSS Feed: https://frog-keyboard-9l8w.squarespace.com/artofambition?format=rss

8/13: The Legion Tapes (Dramatised - Science fiction)
Site: https://www.thelegiontapes.com/
Synopsis: The Legion Tapes are selections from an archive chronicling the world after the end. The alien Legion takes over worlds and absorbs the sentients of those worlds. They've assimilated eleven species so far, and humanity is next on their list. But even after the nations of the world fall, and even after being reduced to communicating solely by radio, humanity's fighting back. Season 1 (subtitled The Archivist) begins four years and fifteen days after the Legion's arrival on Earth. Normally content to listen, record, and edit tapes for the Archive, Owl finds herself drawn into more and more danger after a mysterious car brings the Legion to her door.
RSS Feed: https://crane-oarfish-kdx8.squarespace.com/episodes?format=rss

8/13: The Spectrumverse (Fiction - Superhero)
Site: https://anchor.fm/spectrumverse
Synopsis: Everyone wants to be a superhero when they are a kid. Billy was no different. When he was growing up, he idolised metropolis man and the other superheroes from his home town of Haverford. After a night unlike any other, Billy is forever changed and gains the power to control light.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/310b00dc/podcast/rss

8/13: Theatrephonic (Dramatised - Anthology)
Site: https://catonapiano.uk/posts/theatrephonic/
Synopsis: We bring together professional actors to perform brand new plays. New drama and comedy published every fortnight.
RSS Feed: https://www.spreaker.com/show/4539255/episodes/feed

8/14: Arcane Archives (RPG - Fantasy)
Site: https://arcanearchivespod.com/
Synopsis: Just a Double AA podcast trying to earn our third A. A weekly D&D 5e actual play podcast!
RSS Feed: https://arcanearchivespod.com/episodes?format=rss

8/14: Can You Hear Us? (Dramatised - Science fiction)
Site: https://canyouhearuspodcast.weebly.com/
Synopsis: Hello and welcome to Can You Hear Us, an audio drama following several survivors after a mandatory nationwide quarantine is put in place from the government, only for the virus to mutate by unknown means. Causing those infected to turn on those around them. Spreading the virus even more. Before long world leaders surround the united states with warships, forcing isolation. These Stories are an work of fiction, and are not for the faint of heart. These includes loud sounds and violence, and some adult content. Consumer Discretion is advised.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/2f91b3cc/podcast/rss

8/14: Cryptid Paranormal Investigators (Fiction - Horror)
Site: http://www.buzzsprout.com/1162205
Synopsis: CPI (Cryptid Paranormal Investigators) is an Indie-Horror podcast made to simulate early 40's radio shows. This story draws its inspiration of monsters from wide areas of the internet such as The Slender Man, The Rake and many more. Zeke Battson was accused for the murder of his family at the age of 14. Together with the help of his new found friends Francesca and June, they must travel to U.S encountering strange paranormal creatures in hopes of finding the one that murdered Zeke's family.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/1162205.rss

8/15: Heirs of the Pandavas (Fiction - Fantasy)
Site: https://omny.fm/shows/heirs-of-the-pandavas
Synopsis: Several centuries have passed since the great Battle of Kurukshetra. The tales of valour and bravery and the triumph of good over evil from that time of gods and mighty warriors are just that - tales. Stories parents tell their children to instil bravery in them for they live in a cruel world. No avatar protects the lands of Bharat, as evil in the form of demons, sorcerers, bandits and despotic rulers and all manners of creatures that dwell in the darkness of hell are unleashed upon its innocent denizens. 2 souls walk this hell on earth. A brother and a sister, a warrior monk and a ranger, born in the lineage of Shatanika, one of the sons of the mighty Pandavas. They are on a quest to erase a curse upon their family. Nothing about this adventure will be easy.
RSS Feed: https://www.omnycontent.com/d/playlist/d12d0745-fc3d-4551-91b0-abb4005ee39c/ae5a4aff-f3c5-4ce4-a394-ac0e00855480/ce3e86c6-bc77-4702-93b9-ac0e00892ee2/podcast.rss

8/16: Fantastique (Fiction - Anthology)
Site: http://podfantastique.com/
Synopsis: Stories of Wonder, Dread, and Hope.
RSS Feed: http://podfantastique.com/feed/podcast/

8/17: Metamorphosis (Fiction - Science fiction)
Site: https://www.volcano.ca/metamorphosis-trilogy-episode-releases
Synopsis: Metamorphosis charts the progress of a fictional global pandemic in Canada’s largest city through three fictional diaries. These audio-journals - from a 13-year old girl (Lucretia); a 30-year-old woman (Kerri); and an 86-year old senior (Nella) - are funny, intimate, and often fantastical.

8/17: Silent Hill (Fiction - Horror)
Site: https://audiodjinn.wixsite.com/home/silent-hill
Synopsis: Silent hill is a psychological horror. The story follows Harry Mason as he searches for his missing adopted daughter in the mysterious town of Silent Hill. Stumbling upon a cult conducting a ritual to revive a deity it worships, Harry discovers his daughter's true origin.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.soundcloud.com/users/soundcloud:users:868384132/sounds.rss

8/17: The Path Down (Dramatised - Superhero)
Site: https://thepathdown.com
Synopsis: It’s freshman year of college. Vanessa Ortega is a telepath struggling to control her power in more ways than she realizes. Dexter Sullivan is an aspiring animator still reeling from the loss of his parents two years ago. Between Vanessa’s telepathy and Dexter’s grief, they’ll soon learn that they each have to confront their inner demons.
RSS Feed: https://pinecast.com/feed/the-path-down

8/18: Circle (Dramatised - Horror)
Site: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1266395
Synopsis: From Darker Truths in Strange Fiction comes a twisted tale of a young paranormal investigator, going to find a haunted cabin, only to find something much worse. Will he become one of them, or will he find the will to escape?
RSS Feed: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/1266395.rss

8/18: Last Best Hope (Dramatised - Comedy)
Site: https://www.lastbesthoperadio.com/
Synopsis: After the intrepid crew of Star Command's U.S.S.S. Bittersweet Symphony gets lost in Time and Space, it will take all their gusto to find a way back across the Galactic Divide to save the Earth and Humanity itself!
RSS Feed: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/1259126.rss

8/18: Practical Heroes (RPG - Fantasy)
Site: https://anchor.fm/practical-heroes
Synopsis: Welcome to Practical Heroes! A group of nerdy voice actors enjoying your favourite tabletop roleplaying games - including 5e Dungeons & Dragons.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/2fcdea40/podcast/rss

8/18: Roomie Roamers (RPG - Fantasy)
Site: https://anchor.fm/roomie-roamers
Synopsis: A Dungeons and Dragons 5th edition actual play podcast. The adventure follows the story of three adventurers making waves in the Cilintir Archipelago, an unexplored group of islands found off the southern waters of the Sword Coast. Allie Deutschmann is the DM for this game. Spencer Rapoza plays Damian, a seafaring tiefling warlock on a path of revenge. Taylor Knode plays Inga, a beautiful tiefling paladin who wants to spread the joy of Sune. Kody knode plays Arius, a high elf seeking knowledge that no one else has.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/31972e68/podcast/rss

8/18: Station Obscura (Dramatised - Science fiction)
Site: https://stationobscura.syntaxproduction.com/
Synopsis: Station Obscura follows the interstellar wanderings of one astronaut-scientist Dr. Steve Apollo as he meanders the expanse of the universe, capturing stories he picks up with his frequency interceptor. Each season Dr. Apollo and the Station Obscura Earth team releases the latest three-episode story acquired by the Doctor from a new voice in our galaxy.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/2b30cfc0/podcast/rss

8/18: The Cast Perilous (RPG - Fantasy)
Site: https://thecastperilous.podbean.com
Synopsis: An actual play fantasy RPG/storytelling podcast, featuring home-made sound effects and (endearingly?) amateur players. We prefer storytelling over rules-lawyering, so we use a rules light, old school inspired system, Low Fantasy Gaming. Listen as we tell the tale of young villagers, who are drawn into adventure within the Dolmenwood, a weird faerie-tale forest, in turns both dark and whimsical.
RSS Feed: https://feed.podbean.com/thecastperilous/feed.xml

8/18: What Are We Even Doing (RPG - Fantasy)
Site: https://anchor.fm/what-are-we-even-doing
Synopsis: The W.A.W.E.D DND Podcast. Homebrewed & recorded straight from the table to your ears.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/30f31760/podcast/rss

8/19: D&Dweebs (RPG - Fantasy)
Site: http://www.buzzsprout.com/855625
Synopsis: A 5E actual play podcast featuring a group of dweebs just trying their best to play D&D. Join Tim, Abby, Shelby, and Brandon on their quest to play the world's most famous role playing game.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/855625.rss

8/19: Dungeons & Doctorates (RPG - Fantasy)
Site: https://linktr.ee/dndoctorates
Synopsis: A D&D podcast following the adventures of three postgraduates in a fantasy university dealing with supervisors, monsters, and peer-reviewers.
RSS Feed: http://feeds.feedburner.com/DnDoctorates

8/19: F**ked Up Bedtime Stories (for Adults) (Fiction - Anthology)
Site: https://shows.acast.com/fked-up-bedtime-stories-for-adults/
Synopsis: F**ked Up Bedtime Stories (for adults) features seven short stories written by Alissa Anne Jeun Yi, Dipo Baruwa-Etti, Tim Crouch, Vivienne Franzmann, Matilda Ibini, Amy Jephta and Anthony Neilson. ETT asked these 7 brilliant and provocative writers to tackle the strangeness of our nighttime imaginings and twist the familiar form of bedtime stories into something uncanny, dark and surreal.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/fked-up-bedtime-stories-for-adults

8/19: Futile Attempts (At Surviving Tomorrow) (Dramatised - Comedy)
Site: https://mrkimnoble.com/futile-attempts-podcast/
Synopsis: Futile Attempts (At Surviving Tomorrow) is the new podcast from critically acclaimed comedian and performance artist Kim Noble.
RSS Feed: https://futileattempts.libsyn.com/rss

8/19: Private Detective Randy Randy (Dramatised - Comedy)
Site: https://linktr.ee/RandyRandy_Links
Synopsis: rivate Detective Randy Randy is a scripted comedy podcast that follows the unabashadly self-assured titular character, Randy Randy, beginning on the night he meets Miss Legs, a widow just released from prison for killing her husband 15 years ago. The only problem is, she didn't do it. Or so she says.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/1adbac44/podcast/rss

8/20: Curse of Strahd: Twice Bitten (RPG - Horror)
Site: https://anchor.fm/twice-bitten
Synopsis: Six DMs return to the mists to run a completely Rules-As-Written Curse of Strahd campaign. Our core question: what happens when, rather than luring in a party of heroes or adventurers, the mists of Barovia claim a group of cowardly, cynical, selfish, and/or traumatized individuals who fall—not leap—into adventure? Join Jack, Kaiya, Linus, Tsarina, Twi and their DM DragnaCarta (creator of the popular Curse of Strahd: Reloaded guides) to follow the story of a group of ordinary people thrust headfirst into danger.
RSS Feed: https://anchor.fm/s/32a17340/podcast/rss

8/20: Forties AF (Dramatised - Slice of life)
Site: https://www.fortiesaf.com/
Synopsis: Forties AF is a sexy, sassy, and funny fiction drama podcast about three forty-something single friends and their complicated lives. Hope, a newly-forty entertainment magazine reporter by night and aspiring writer by day, picks up the pieces her thirties left behind. Chanise, a postal carrier in her late forties, is a new empty nester and is adjusting to her new-found freedom. Brianna a hopeless romantic in her mid-forties, is a hairstylist at a very popular and hip salon and is seeking out her complete happiness. These ladies support each other as they laugh, love, and cry together, because – as they’re about to find out - life begins at forty.
RSS Feed: https://feeds.simplecast.com/9ZaMRb3l
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2020.08.29 06:30 CasuallyDying23 What Has Biden Done For America?

I wrote a whole ass essay in someone's comments, thought I'd just make my own post for anyone wondering.
(as a preface, we support him because though he is a centrist, he will have many more progressive people backing him while he is in office. he's a sort of "gateway" to a more progressive government.)
  1. Joe Biden was the 6th youngest elected senator when he first joined the Senate in 1973, and was a senator until 2009, when he became vice president.
  2. Biden helped write several crime laws, including the Federal Crime Control and Law Enforcement Act of 1994, the Federal Assault Weapons Ban of 1994, and the Violence Against Women Act of 1994 (to prevent domestic violence). He also help to create the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which is still in service today since it's creation in 2005, and has helped hundreds of thousands of individuals with stopping their domestic abuse.
  3. Biden served as chairman of the International Narcotics Control Caucus in 2003, where he introduced the Reducing Americans' Vulnerability to Ecstacy law, which helped stop the spread of several substances, including ecstacy, date rape drugs, and harmful athletic steroids
  4. Biden wrote the "Kids 2000" legislature of 2000 which helped give internet access to low-income families through building community centers with available computers in low-income neighborhoods
  5. During his vice presidency, Biden served on several committees focusing on building new infrastructure, stopping gun violence in the wake of the Sandy Hook shooting, reducing the national debt, creating the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act, and legalizing gay marriage. Biden also further developed his 1994 Violence Against Women Act, creating the White House Council on Women and Girls and the White House Task Force to Protect Students From Sexual Assault.
TL:DR Biden has made a lot of impactful legislature during his time in the Senate and as vp, and has worked hard to build up America's infrastructure and create solid progressive laws
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2020.08.02 17:06 subredditsummarybot LeftWingMaleAdvocates top posts and comments for the week of July 26 - August 01

Sunday, July 26 - Saturday, August 01

Top 10 Posts

score comments title & link
107 85 comments I was stabbed and nearly killed by a woman, then shamed for it.
93 44 comments Fempathy: a characteristic of women who only care about men's problems when they negatively affect women
86 18 comments The UN is responsible for hundreds of thousands of men starving to death through negligence
82 29 comments Online bullying is not gendered issue.
57 8 comments Haiti raises men's and boy's issues at the unites nations human rights council
56 7 comments Under obamacare, the "free annual physical" is only free for women
55 35 comments Cultural misandry.
54 9 comments "Reactions to male‐favouring versus female‐favouring sex differences: A pre‐registered experiment and Southeast Asian replication"
54 13 comments Need for Men's Rights
51 11 comments Female, intersex, and male genital mutilation are comparable.
 

Top 10 Comments

score comment
44 Egalitarian2020 said It can be subsumed under the term 'misandry' or more specifically 'gynocentrism.'
42 Oncefa2 said This is a classic strategy in the West too. Australia's national domestic violence hotline used to (and probably still does) redirect men to a "support line" meant to help them stop abusing t...
40 Forgetaboutthelonely said This is the exact same shit that was going on with gamergate. One side understands that being any sort of public figure online will get you some shitty remarks from trolls. Particularly if you're co...
37 Nath43673 said Call out this habit directly when you do any kind of awareness or fund raising for men's health and other issues, such as through Movember. Don't necessarily make it the main message, but add it to a ...
37 EpsilonFactor633 said I had always thought that dating as a straight man was difficult, primarily because straight men have to carry the weight of initiating, impressing the person they want to date, and deal with frequent...
36 Aaod said Because it pays more money and mens life role is money provider it really is that simple. Men are also used to being metaphorically punched in the face more often while growing up so they can tolerate...
33 Keown14 said There are a number of women who think like that, but they are very much in the minority. I’ve told this story to two women in my house just now, and they’ve both said that the woman who tried to shame...
29 Russelsteapot42 said There was a time when nearly all media was dominated by appealing to men. Now it seems like a significant portion of media is built to appeal to women, and no one wants to talk about that because it w...
29 brownsam_1997 said "black owned" so they're also discriminatating against other ethnic minorities which aren't black.
28 GalileosTele said Practically none of the issues feminists rant about are gendered issues. They just portray them to be by only looking at cases when the affected are women, and ignoring them otherwise. [How to do...
 
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2020.07.27 04:04 throwmydomaway [Update] How do I leave my abusive dom and avoid abusive kinksters in the future?

Hello everyone! Some of you may remember my last post, and I just wanted to give you an update on how I'm doing.
First, I want to thank everyone that replied, you were all so supportive and helpful. Thank you for being awesome.
After the post, I started virtually meeting with a therapist, and we talked about how what I was going through is abuse and discussed ways to get out of it. About 2-3 weeks after my post, I was just done. It was just one thing after another that went against my boundaries and one evening it was like I had this fire, this drive to get out. I'm intentionally being vague, but I got out safely, and without incident. I felt so safe and so free after I got out. He blew up my phone afterwards, just constantly calling and texting me, to the point that I have him blocked now.
I didn't realize how much this relationship and what he did to me affected me so much, until I got out. I was so stressed and anxious from it, that it was affecting my work, my sleep, and even my driving. I've spent several sessions with my therapist going over what feels like everything, because I don't want to have to go through this ever again. It was like I lost myself, and now I'm going through and trying to find the pieces that make me who I am.
To address my past self:
EDIT: some clarification
TL;DR: I left him, have been no contact/blocked him due to him constantly calling and texting me, and feel like I'm starting my next chapter. I'm restarting my BDSM journey and I'm being patient with myself.
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